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Old 12-06-2013, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I think if you agreed to pay your portion of the plain-pine-box route; then that's what you pay.
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Unless you made an agreement with family beforehand to help with the costs, no one should be handing you a bill for anything.
I agree.
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Old 12-06-2013, 11:59 AM
 
Location: Long Neck,De
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I think if you agreed to pay your portion of the plain-pine-box route; then that's what you pay.
You did agree to pay before it was changed. Pay what you promised and tell them "That's it That is what I promised and that's all I am paying"
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Old 12-06-2013, 12:10 PM
 
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No such word as disseized.
Actually, there is. It's a legal term. But why a spellchecker would assume that's what the writer wanted is a bit odd.

disseized - definition of disseized by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.
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Old 12-06-2013, 01:00 PM
 
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Good advice regarding the original posters issue.

As was yours
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Old 12-06-2013, 01:59 PM
 
Location: Wherever I happen to be at the moment
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I'm sorry, I try very hard to ignore poor grammar, spelling but I just have to point out in these two posts.

No such word as disseized. It is deceased. You might want to stick to "passed away".

The Wife isn't deceased, she is the deceased's Wife.

That adds nothing of substance to a serious matter involving a family death. I can just imagine the hue and cry were someone to post something like this on the Grief and Mourning Forum where you spend considerable time.
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Old 12-06-2013, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Wherever I happen to be at the moment
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If you agreed to pay part of the " plain pine box", then figure out what that cost would be and pay that much. That seems fair to me.
Precisely! And not a penny more nor less.
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Old 12-06-2013, 10:07 PM
 
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I agree with everyone else. Price the "plain pine box" and send the relative your half of that. The end! Don't tell them things are tight which leads them to think you are going to pay half of the full blown deal. Just tell them or send them half of what you originally agreed to pay.
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Old 12-06-2013, 10:47 PM
 
Location: Georgia
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I would pay what I could afford, and not worry too much about it. I know you don't want to look like a cheapskate, but to be expected to pay 1/3 of a funeral that you had no input in and was probably 5-6 times the price of a cremation is ludicrous. What would the widow have done if he didn't have brothers?

to Miss Hepburn: Willing your body to science isn't quite as easy as signing a piece of paper. The institution has a say in whether or not they will actually accept the deceased's body, depending on the cause of death or the condition of the body (i.e., grossly obese are not accepted). The remains are usually cremated in a few years, and the family can obtain the cremains, or they are interred in a university site dedicated to those remains.
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Old 12-07-2013, 03:10 AM
 
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And yet another story of how irresponsible it is for people to not take care of their final arrangements before they pass away. The "Let the surviving family deal with it" plan just leads to hurt feelings and resentment. Notice how no one is talking about how great a guy the deceased was, etc.
People don't want to deal with this and would rather hide their head in the sand. They don't want to be reminded of death.

I've told my wife to find an extra large hefty trash bag and throw me in the dumpster if I go first. To me, it's just a shell and it won't matter to me anyways.
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Old 12-07-2013, 07:01 AM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA
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Oh, in re to donating your body to science....when googled it is all explained.
You, yourself, fill out a form, prior.
I'm sure it also has info on the family desiring to donate when
it was not pre arranged and how to go about that. (That wasn't my interest, sorry.)

Everyone, good luck with family and funerals...

Btw, hefty bags aren't legal. and taking care of the burden for
our loved ones is the mature and caring thing for all of us to do.
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