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Ok my Half Brother Passed couple months ago, knew for over a year he had little time left in this world, didn't make any arraignments said let his Brothers worry about it Fine your being cremated same as me for the same reasons I'm cheap.
He tells other Half Brother he don't want to be cremated because he was afraid if he was he wouldn't go to Heaven Ok fine other Half Brother says Plain Pine Box, Wrap the Body, bury no ceremony within 24 hours. Yea this is ok I can still pay my part.
Few days later Half Brother calls says there is going to be a Funeral at the Cemetery in couple days Didn't ask but what happen with Plain Pine Box?
Get to the Cemetery there is the Hearse, Preacher, Regular Coffin the whole nine yards. After service Half Brother says lets go to local Restaurant for Dinner. Get there, no sooner set down, he lays Funeral Bill on the Table, says this is your share. Says disseized Brothers Wife can not afford anything, his adopted Father can't afford anything because he has Hospital Bills At the time I'm thinking I just got out of my second round of being in the Hospital this year and I don't have Hospital Bills.
Ok I'll admit I was in shock with this and at time really didn't know what to say. Last month he called wanting to know when I was sending money? Told him things were tight which wasn't a lie and I didn't know when I could get any money to him,
Ok truly feel he was wrong putting this on me and don't feel I should pay a Dime. Hadn't had relationship with disseized Brother for 43 years, hadn't had relationship with other Brother in 10 years and that was only once a year for Christmas at Moms.
Since you were not contacted regarding the change of plan I myself would not pay anything toward the final arrangements.
That is me though but I probably would not have agreed to pay anything from the start since there was no relationship for many years.
It is up to the deceased Wife to pay for his funeral and unless you signed an agreement I doubt you can be held legally responsible for the bills.
Ok my Half Brother Passed couple months ago, knew for over a year he had little time left in this world, didn't make any arraignments said let his Brothers worry about it Fine your being cremated same as me for the same reasons I'm cheap.
He tells other Half Brother he don't want to be cremated because he was afraid if he was he wouldn't go to Heaven Ok fine other Half Brother says Plain Pine Box, Wrap the Body, bury no ceremony within 24 hours. Yea this is ok I can still pay my part.
Few days later Half Brother calls says there is going to be a Funeral at the Cemetery in couple days Didn't ask but what happen with Plain Pine Box?
Get to the Cemetery there is the Hearse, Preacher, Regular Coffin the whole nine yards. After service Half Brother says lets go to local Restaurant for Dinner. Get there, no sooner set down, he lays Funeral Bill on the Table, says this is your share. Says disseized Brothers Wife can not afford anything, his adopted Father can't afford anything because he has Hospital Bills At the time I'm thinking I just got out of my second round of being in the Hospital this year and I don't have Hospital Bills.
Ok I'll admit I was in shock with this and at time really didn't know what to say. Last month he called wanting to know when I was sending money? Told him things were tight which wasn't a lie and I didn't know when I could get any money to him,
Ok truly feel he was wrong putting this on me and don't feel I should pay a Dime. Hadn't had relationship with disseized Brother for 43 years, hadn't had relationship with other Brother in 10 years and that was only once a year for Christmas at Moms.
Thoughts??
brushrunner
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Originally Posted by CSD610
Since you were not contacted regarding the change of plan I myself would not pay anything toward the final arrangements.
That is me though but I probably would not have agreed to pay anything from the start since there was no relationship for many years.
It is up to the deceased Wife to pay for his funeral and unless you signed an agreement I doubt you can be held legally responsible for the bills.
I'm sorry, I try very hard to ignore poor grammar, spelling but I just have to point out in these two posts.
No such word as disseized. It is deceased. You might want to stick to "passed away".
The Wife isn't deceased, she is the deceased's Wife.
If this scenario were to happen to me, I would just be frank and tell your family your feelings and I would not pay a penny. My husband's family is big.
I suppose it depends on your relationship with these people from this day forward. If you want to keep in touch you'll end up having to pay. Don't want to pay? Then either cut all ties or expect to hear about it forever.
Personally, I wouldn't pay more than I had agreed to. They got suckered in by the funeral home who probably misled them into thinking they were not allowed to bury him the way you wanted.
Aw, too bad more people don't know about donating their body to
the nearest Medical University.
They pick up the body and in a month return the ashes to you with a
representative that speaks at the Mem Service thanking the family so much.
Free.
Just google it. So simple and care free.
Oh, and I would pitch in my share for the price of a cremation...not what was
"Pulled on you" all of a sudden....not in this economy.
You don't pay "nothing".
Last edited by Miss Hepburn; 12-06-2013 at 06:44 AM..
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Fine your being cremated same as me for the same reasons I'm cheap.
Didn't ask but what happen with Plain Pine Box?
At the time I'm thinking I just got out of my second round of being in the Hospital this year and I don't have Hospital Bills.
