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Old 12-11-2013, 04:51 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, Tx
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I didnt read the entire thread because......well.....it's too long and Im too lazy. That said, people have been prejudged for years and will continue to be prejudged.

I worked at Radio Shack in the late 80's/early 90's. Husband and wife come in, he in duct taped boots and she in polyester shorts and tank top. Everyone ignored them. I wasnt even paying attention and the guy approached me wanting to buy a computer. He wanted to finance. I decided wht the hell and ran his credit. He was approved for $2500 and blew the whole thing on a computer.

Fast forward to 2002 I walked onto a Chevy lot in sweats and a t-shirt. EVERYONE ignored me except one dude who was obviously the bottom of the barrel. Dude was still hung over from the night before and even still smelled like booze. I bought a brand new Monte Carlo SS that day. Too bad everyone ignored me.

Point is........it has happened in the past and will happen into the future. Want to avoid it? Dont buck conventional wisdom. Want to buck conventional wisdom? That is your right and more power to you. I dont want to hear it when you have problems though.
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Old 12-11-2013, 07:49 PM
 
Location: West of Louisiana, East of New Mexico
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Upscale is OK, but snobby is a no-no. If I'm paying $200+ on dinner for two, I better not so much as hear or see anything sassy or uppity from anyone working in the restaurant.
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Old 12-11-2013, 07:57 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Wow...I cant believe how nasty some of you are being wow . . .
Let's just say when the tide goes out, it comes back in...
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Old 12-11-2013, 08:16 PM
 
Location: Pacific NW
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No. You weren't singled out. You wore jeans and a shirt to a formal restaurant that has an implied dress code. You remind me of the guy who came to my wedding, which was black tie and specified so on the invitation, in a short sleeve Hawaiian shirt.
What you wore was tacky and you knew better. And you got a free meal, probably a decent one. Get over it.
So you had the security guards toss him out of your wedding?
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Old 12-11-2013, 09:57 PM
 
Location: California
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I'm also too lazy to read all the pages but I'm doubting it went down this way. There is either more to it, or someone is embellishing for dramatic purposes. The manager telling you that the employee has done this before is a giveaway. I don't care either way.
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Old 12-12-2013, 03:37 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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OK so I read the entire thread. It was very nice of you to take your girlfriend out on a whim to a nice place. I think you should marry her and let her dress you like most of us do with our fashion challenged husbands. I've been dressing mine for years. He's not going out there in public with me looking like Boo Boo the Fool. I think calling security on you was a tad extreme and wrong, no matter how ugly those shark tooth necklaces are. Sorry, I don't find those the least bit attractive. Seriously, marry the girlfriend. She sounds like a keeper.
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Old 12-12-2013, 06:58 AM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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I decided to surprise my partner at her job by sending some flowers to her today. Then I came and pulled her out of her job. Her higher up was very cool and let me snag her. I know him because he is a common customer at the auto shop I help run. Anyway, I surprised her by taking her out to Fleming's Steakhouse tonight which I had a reservation planned.

We arrived at the restaurant. If you guys aren't familiar with Fleming's it is more of an "upscale" restaurant where you dress formal but I just decided to where nicely pressed jeans with a nice shirt (not collared though). None of the whole overly formal suit and slack stuff though my partner dressed lovely then again she came to the restaurant straight from work. She stayed back to go grab something she forgot when walking up so I walked in by myself.

I stood there waiting to be brought to our table but the frontman asked whether "we had lost our way". I politely said no but before I could say anything else, he interrupted me and requested security to see me out. My partner walks in asking what is going on. The security officer and the manager came up to the front and asked what was going on. The frontman was like "this......man won't leave the restaurant". I told the manager that I had a reservation. He asked me whether the doorman requested my name for a reservation and I asked the doorman did he. The doorman said yes. The manager told him not to lie because the camera already recorded the entire thing. He then confessed that he didn't so I gave the manager my name and he pulled up the reservation and apologized. He then sat us to a more private table and told us our meal was on the house.

I was embarrassed and felt bad for my girl who had to go through all that to be honest. I just wanted to be spontaneous and have a good evening with her. Without being part of a scene in front the other patrons. I made sure to get the biggest steak on the menu and a bottle of wine. I took the plate of leftovers home with a few toothpicks and boy was it good. I did see the frontman get called over by the manager but I don't know what happened to him. The manager did mention that this wasn't his first time doing this. It's a pity that was. Anybody else been prejudge by anyone ever?
Yeah..........all the time.
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Old 12-12-2013, 09:23 AM
 
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I'm also too lazy to read all the pages but I'm doubting it went down this way. There is either more to it, or someone is embellishing for dramatic purposes. The manager telling you that the employee has done this before is a giveaway. I don't care either way.

Agreed. The OP should have quit while he was ahead.
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Old 12-12-2013, 09:55 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I'm confused.
If other people were casually dressed in the restaurant, then what exactly was the op pre-judged on?
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Old 12-12-2013, 03:33 PM
 
Location: palmsprings
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They have security for Flemming's? Lol
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