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Old 12-11-2013, 05:30 AM
 
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My mom used to give my boyfriends a store or mall gift certificate for $15 or $25 if they were participating in Christmas with us. I have gotten things such as the ugliest sweater in all of creation to sets of dish towels from a boyfriend's parents or siblings.
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Old 12-11-2013, 01:14 PM
 
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My mom used to give my boyfriends a store or mall gift certificate for $15 or $25 if they were participating in Christmas with us. I have gotten things such as the ugliest sweater in all of creation to sets of dish towels from a boyfriend's parents or siblings.
What did your grandparents give your boyfriends? That is the subject of this thread.
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Old 12-11-2013, 01:42 PM
 
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What did your grandparents give your boyfriends? That is the subject of this thread.
My grandparents were no longer alive or when only one was she got them nothing. His grandparents got me nothing. Depending upon whose house we were visiting for Christmas dinner we would get the hostess a bottle of wine or flower arrangement and expected nothing in return.
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Old 12-11-2013, 02:04 PM
 
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Well, there you go then!
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Old 12-11-2013, 02:26 PM
 
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I like the store gift card idea, too.
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Old 12-11-2013, 03:02 PM
 
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It is nice to have a small gift for a new visitor at Christmas if there is to be a gift exchange. My grandmother and great aunts used to keep wrapped boxes of chocolate and figurines (all low cost) for just this purpose. (They picked awful things out - please pick better if you ever go this route!) But if someone you do not know well isn't visiting - no need to get a gift. Now, if he LIVES with your granddaughter, acknowledgement of their joint household in the form of a card might be nice. Maybe two envelopes inside - one with a small gift card for him and one with a check for your granddaughter.
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Old 12-11-2013, 10:01 PM
 
Location: California
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I don't give presents to my daughters boyfriends. And there have been plenty over the years. I did send her current one a birthday card and if they visit I buy them a nice meal out. He's going to be across the country with his parents and she is going to be here with me so it's not a problem anyway.
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Old 12-12-2013, 03:04 AM
 
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They do live together but it's not a separate household . They've been together over a year now and live with my disabled daughter.He is a welcome and helpful addition to the household and the only reason we don't know him better is because we aren't there.
I did get a gift card to a favorite shop and it 'feels' like the perfect solution.
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Old 12-12-2013, 11:46 AM
 
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You are very sweet to think of him. I agree with a giftcard to a restaurant or to a movie theater so he can take your grandchild out on a date.
My husbands grandparents didn't acknowledge me for any gifts until after we got married, even though I had attend Christmas at their house for 5 years prior to our engagement and 7 prior to our wedding.
My grandparents live in another country so I don't get presents from them unless I'm physically there to receive them so I wouldn't expect them to have ever gotten him anything.
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Old 12-12-2013, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Texas
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They do live together but it's not a separate household . They've been together over a year now and live with my disabled daughter.He is a welcome and helpful addition to the household and the only reason we don't know him better is because we aren't there.
I did get a gift card to a favorite shop and it 'feels' like the perfect solution.
At first I was going to say you shouldn't get him anything. But if he is helping out with your disabled daughter, then I would say he deserves a gift. (I don't mean as a form of "payment" or anything but simply because it's indicative of a different type of relationship not just with your granddaughter but with the entire family.)

I still wouldn't, however, send money. That just seems like strictly a grandparent/grandchild type thing.
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