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I'm obviously not religious. I never go to church. My brother and family are very religious. He had to mail me something and sent a bible in the package too.
I find this highly inappropriate and kind of creepy. We don't really talk because he is someone I have just been tolerating and I got tired of wasting my energy on keeping up relationships I don't enjoy. Anyway, I'm not sure what to do. I haven't said anything about it, but I feel a little harassed, since it's obviously unwanted contact, that is being pushed on me. I find this disrespectful and condescending. How do I keep this kind of thing from happening again?
What would you do with ANY book you are gifted that you are not at all interested in?
Do that with this one.
I do not see how you are harassed, disrespected or condescended to, just by receiving a book. Sounds like there is much more going on with the relationship if that truly is the case....
What would you do with ANY book you are gifted that you are not at all interested in?
Do that with this one.
I do not see how you are harassed, disrespected or condescended to, just by receiving a book. Sounds like there is much more going on with the relationship if that truly is the case....
I'm surprised that someone wouldn't understand why it would be obvious that a sibling is not religious.
I don't go to church, same as other non religious people.
I don't talk about religion, same as other non religious people.
I don't have a religion, same as other non religious people.
Seriously, do most immediate family members not know if they are religious or not?
If I were religious (christian), I'd already have a bible. If I'm not, why would I want one?
Sheesh. People online just get worse and worse. My goodness.
Anyways...i know exactly how you feel. About the energy thing and everything.
Just explain (in writing?) that he's actually just driving you farther and farther away...from the lord or whatever....or, toss the book / return to sender. Seems like he's just using a bible to insult you further. Which is sad.
I'm currently being stalked by my family too so I know how it feels. Some people really are genuinely evil. not that that's the case with you but...
There's not much you can do short of moving and/or getting a restraining order...which I've put some serious thought into...
Sorry that you're having to go through this. Family is supposed to be there supporting each other...no matter what. They should be uplifted by the successes of one of their own. You know?
I'm obviously not religious. I never go to church. My brother and family are very religious. He had to mail me something and sent a bible in the package too.
I find this highly inappropriate and kind of creepy. We don't really talk because he is someone I have just been tolerating and I got tired of wasting my energy on keeping up relationships I don't enjoy. Anyway, I'm not sure what to do. I haven't said anything about it, but I feel a little harassed, since it's obviously unwanted contact, that is being pushed on me. I find this disrespectful and condescending. How do I keep this kind of thing from happening again?
So write him a note and tell him that you are not religious, you do not appreciate his attempts to bring the Bible into your life and you wish no further contact from him. Then mail it all back to him.
Problem solved, no more bibles, no more brother "that you just can't bother with".
I would take it as he is trying to start a dialogue with you. Religion is evidently an important part of his life, and so from his perspective he's reaching out to you. You, of course, have a different perspective. Religion isn't an important part of your life, and it's not something you wish to connect over with your brother. I would donate the Bible to a local church, hospital or nursing home. And if he should ask you about it, I would tell him that you donated it to someone you thought could use it more.
While you may have little in common with your brother, family is family. Disrespect and violated boundaries are part of having a family. We can all try to set boundaries, but the people most likely to violate our boundaries are family members.
Why dont you read it. Particularly those sections discussing forgiveness.
I don't rely on fictional religious book to tell me what to do. I naturally forgive people after some time. I forgive, but that doesn't mean I should also continue unproductive relationships.
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