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Old 12-17-2013, 12:35 AM
 
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So, sometimes my wife and I are frustrated, and we can get a bit noisy. Volumes are raised, we're sharing our frustrations with each other. Not top of the lungs yelling.

I'm wondering - can our neighbors hear us when they are inside their house?

Our houses are separated about 20 feet. We have good insulation. All windows are closed.

I can hear them on occasion when they are in their garage and their voices are raised, and I can hear the children in the street when they are playing loudly - or yelling at each other. Rarely do I hear people or music from inside their house while outside, and we've never heard them while inside our house. So I think the answer is no.

I'd appreciate your opinion.
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Old 12-17-2013, 12:38 AM
 
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Ask them if they can hear you.
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Old 12-17-2013, 06:07 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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"Can our neighbors hear us in our house?"

What did they say when you asked?
No way anyone on the internet could know!
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Old 12-17-2013, 06:17 AM
 
Location: The Jar
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So, sometimes my wife and I are frustrated, and we can get a bit noisy. Volumes are raised, we're sharing our frustrations with each other. Not top of the lungs yelling.

I'm wondering - can our neighbors hear us when they are inside their house?

Our houses are separated about 20 feet. We have good insulation. All windows are closed.

I can hear them on occasion when they are in their garage and their voices are raised, and I can hear the children in the street when they are playing loudly - or yelling at each other. Rarely do I hear people or music from inside their house while outside, and we've never heard them while inside our house. So I think the answer is no.

I'd appreciate your opinion.
I can appreciate your concern, and have wondered the same thing about our (and personal noise) neighbors myself.

How can you check a thing like that?! Hmmm...

I'll keep checking your thread in hopes someone will come up with a realistic creative way.

In the meantime use your inside voice! LOL!
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Old 12-17-2013, 06:43 AM
 
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Text your frustrations
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Old 12-17-2013, 06:44 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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LOL how can we know? If you have good insulation, and you can't hear your neighbors talking, then probably not.

We used to lower our voices when living in our townhome, when we talked about our neighbors, but in our new 'detached' home, I haven't even considered the fact that someone might hear us.
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Old 12-17-2013, 09:58 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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yeah, let's ask an internet forum if your neighbors can hear you.

Funniest thread in the last 10 days.
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Old 12-17-2013, 11:21 AM
 
Location: Coos Bay, Oregon
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So, sometimes my wife and I are frustrated, and we can get a bit noisy. Volumes are raised, we're sharing our frustrations with each other. Not top of the lungs yelling.

I'm wondering - can our neighbors hear us when they are inside their house?

Our houses are separated about 20 feet. We have good insulation. All windows are closed.

I can hear them on occasion when they are in their garage and their voices are raised, and I can hear the children in the street when they are playing loudly - or yelling at each other. Rarely do I hear people or music from inside their house while outside, and we've never heard them while inside our house. So I think the answer is no.

I'd appreciate your opinion.

Play music at the same volume your voices would be at. Go out side and listen. If you can hear it outside, then assume your neighbors can hear it too.

This is one of the reasons I don't understand why people spend big $$$$$ for townhouses, and new urban crap homes with cardboard walls. You have zero privacy.
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Old 12-17-2013, 11:26 AM
 
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Play music at the same volume your voices would be at. Go out side and listen. If you can hear it outside, then assume your neighbors can hear it too.

This is one of the reasons I don't understand why people spend big $$$$$ for townhouses, and new urban crap homes with cardboard walls. You have zero privacy.
Not always. I have a friend who lives in one that has 4' spaces between each house, though the siding makes it look like the houses are joined at the walls, and there's good soundproofing insulation between each unit. I never hear hear neighbors when I'm at her house.
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Old 12-17-2013, 11:26 AM
 
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Probably. Unless the house and/or fence were designed specifically to block sound, it's highly likely a raised voice could travel 20 feet. I'd say it's less likely your conversation is intelligible, but probably so if the neighbor decides to listen to it.

Keep in mind you shouldn't expect your neighbors to change their behavior to accommodate your "communication style" IE expecting them to turn on the radio or go into the basement to avoid overhearing your arguments. If you decide to share your problems with everyone on the block, that's your decision to do so. "hoping" they don't hear isn't an excuse to force other people to listen to it on their own property.

I've looked into the costs of adding adequate sound insulation and it's not cheap. If you consider yourself a good neighbor, you should offer them at least a few thousand dollars to help them combat the problem. If, when you offer they say they don't hear anything - then you know.
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