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Old 12-20-2013, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Monnem Germany/ from San Diego
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I read an article a while back by a woman who refuses to look at her two divorces as failures. She said that she had two successful marriages that just ran their course and ended.
This is how I look at my first marriage of 8 years, My second was 5 weeks and ended in death, wish that one would have lasted longer but I have no regrets from either.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:25 PM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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I dont think this line of thinking is confined to the institution of marriage. Some people have a difficult time keeping an open mind and refuse to even consider anything outside of their own little world. These are small minded people that are best dealt with via the delivery of a good hard slap in the face.
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Old 12-20-2013, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I know a few couples who are very close and do almost everything together. One of the couples got married which surprised me because I thought they were already married. Another couple is not married - or maybe they are. I just figure they're together. A third couple broke up and I thought they were going to get divorced but they can't because they're not married.

In other words, I don't get into other people's personal lives to know the details of their relationships. It's their business not mine. I consider practically any inquiries about it to be rude so I don't do inquire or comment.

[my ignorance is bliss ]
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Old 12-20-2013, 03:46 PM
 
Location: Poinciana, FL
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Obviously, I'm not okay with that sort of thinking because of its misguided sweeping generalizations.
Similar to adding the very real concept of mens rights in scare quotes.
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Old 12-20-2013, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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My last ex and I had an amicable divorce after only 6 years. Although she made roughly $80k a year, I paid ALL the bills. She got the dining room set, one of the living room sets, 2 TVs, both sets of washer and dryers, and nearly $100k in cash. I got piece of mind.

I have absolutely nothing against a long term committed relationship, I however will never marry again.
That's what I get for not proofreading 'Peace of mind'
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Old 12-20-2013, 07:01 PM
 
Location: In the city
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That's what I get for not proofreading 'Peace of mind'
Haha..maybe it was a Freudian slip-- which piece of your mind did she take?
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Old 12-20-2013, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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I pretty much could use the original post in an unedited form as my own. I was married for 28 years and was, for the most part , happy. She wanted out, so we divorced about 15 years ago, and I have been single ever since.

I did have a live in GF for 7 years after the divorce, but it fell apart mainly because she wanted to get married and I didn't. So, for the past approximately 7 years I have been single and really don't ever see myself getting in another relationship. Life is too good and too easy this way........I do exactly what I want without having to consider another person, I spend money on whatever I want without someone being upset about it, and if I don't feel like doing anything I don't have someone nagging me to get up and go out.

If you feel better being married, go for it, but some of us have been there and now prefer being on our own.

Don
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Old 12-20-2013, 09:29 PM
 
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Here's my take. I'm single and never married but I have seen situations were people have become sick. The married person had someone by their side to help out. The single person was lucky and had a family member to help out. The thing is get sick and reality hits home. Myself I don't want to be married but like I said life can hit home.
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Old 12-20-2013, 11:07 PM
 
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I've been happily divorced for the past 20 years and am very independent, and I would never get remarried, either. I've never gotten any negative feedback about it; some of my older female friends almost seem to envy the fact that I'm completely in control of my life and my finances, and can travel and spend my money however I wish without consulting anyone else. Most of my friends are actually male, and I have no axe to grind about men at all; it's more than I just enjoy living alone.
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Old 12-20-2013, 11:17 PM
 
Location: SE Michigan
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I get this!

I'm divorced and have been in a "friends with benefits" relationship since 2006. Works for him, works for me. Neither of us wants to remarry or live together.

I can't say I've ever noticed any societal pressure to get married, though. We're in our 50s. Old enough to know what we want.
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