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I was supposed to meet a friend yesterday between 4:15 and 4:30 for an early dinner. (I hadn't had lunch.) I texted her at 3:30 and told her I'd be there closer to 4:15, she read my text. I got there at 4:10, texted her again with the exact location. She texted back at 4:23 that it took longer to scrape the ice off her car than expected. I thought I knew where she was leaving from, so assumed she'd be there in 10-15 minutes. She didn't show til 4:50, just as I was leaving. I was really pi$$ed by then, so I let her know and left. Would you have waited that long? Was I unreasonable?
Does it make a difference that she frequently does this? About a year ago, she called me an hour after she was supposed to meet me to let me know she was leaving the house. She lives an hour away from where we were meeting. I told her not to bother.
yeah, sounds like you are being a little too petty, some people are just not punctual. you could have waited at the bar until she got there or order appetizers. you could have also called her and let her know that you were going to go ahead and order your dinner because you were really hungry. I would have told her lets do this another time and let it be at that. life is just too short to be getting upset over petty things like showing up 50 minutes late. And since she is your friend, I'm sure you were aware of her not being on time issues. It's not worth getting mad over or jumping all over her about it, it's not that serious. What if she had been in a car crash and never mad it at all, then what. Are you the dominate personality in this friendship and when you say jump, she ask how high? If so that's not good . we all have flaws you know. good luck
yeah, sounds like you are being a little too petty, some people are just not punctual. you could have waited at the bar until she got there or order appetizers. you could have also called her and let her know that you were going to go ahead and order your dinner because you were really hungry. I would have told her lets do this another time and let it be at that. life is just too short to be getting upset over petty things like showing up 50 minutes late. And since she is your friend, I'm sure you were aware of her not being on time issues. It's not worth getting mad over or jumping all over her about it, it's not that serious. What if she had been in a car crash and never mad it at all, then what. Are you the dominate personality in this friendship and when you say jump, she ask how high? If so that's not good . we all have flaws you know. good luck
I disagree.
Once or twice, I may let it go. Other people's time aren't more valuable then mines. If someone is late, it is courtesy to communicate if they will be tardy. I would do the same in return. I personally believe in the 15 minute late rule
I was supposed to meet a friend yesterday between 4:15 and 4:30 for an early dinner. (I hadn't had lunch.) I texted her at 3:30 and told her I'd be there closer to 4:15, she read my text. I got there at 4:10, texted her again with the exact location. She texted back at 4:23 that it took longer to scrape the ice off her car than expected. I thought I knew where she was leaving from, so assumed she'd be there in 10-15 minutes. She didn't show til 4:50, just as I was leaving. I was really pi$$ed by then, so I let her know and left. Would you have waited that long? Was I unreasonable?
Does it make a difference that she frequently does this? About a year ago, she called me an hour after she was supposed to meet me to let me know she was leaving the house. She lives an hour away from where we were meeting. I told her not to bother.
Being mean by blowing your friend off when they arrived certainly wasn't being a "good friend" either.
If your friend were to post here, I bet the post would read
"I was running late to meet my friend due to bad weather. I texted my friend to let them know I was late due to weather. My friend sounded understanding in text. After putting the time into battling the weather, over what is a half hour drive in nice weather, I arrived to find her angry and yelling at me. Should I bother to keep this emotionally abusive friend?"
I was supposed to meet a friend yesterday between 4:15 and 4:30 for an early dinner. (I hadn't had lunch.) I texted her at 3:30 and told her I'd be there closer to 4:15, she read my text. I got there at 4:10, texted her again with the exact location. She texted back at 4:23 that it took longer to scrape the ice off her car than expected. I thought I knew where she was leaving from, so assumed she'd be there in 10-15 minutes. She didn't show til 4:50, just as I was leaving. I was really pi$$ed by then, so I let her know and left. Would you have waited that long? Was I unreasonable?
Does it make a difference that she frequently does this? About a year ago, she called me an hour after she was supposed to meet me to let me know she was leaving the house. She lives an hour away from where we were meeting. I told her not to bother.
If you know she does this all the time, why not plan for it and not get there that early?
If she always is late I would take that into account and tell her earlier.
I would also give her a dose of her own medicine
I like this. Don't leave until she texts that she's arrived. This kind of behavior irritates me as well.
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