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Old 12-22-2013, 09:11 PM
 
Location: Somewhere in America
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If the gift is more important then the friendship I would say it isn't much of a friendship.
Even though you stated several times "it isn't the money or the gift", that is not true, if it were not the items being given it would not bother you a bit. You would be grateful that she is at least thinking of you whether you get a box of opened cookies or a brand new car.
If someone regift you a pile of fake dog poop from Spencer's you'd be ok with that? Some people find that stuff hilarious. Others find it rude and and offensive.
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Old 12-23-2013, 12:31 AM
 
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If someone regift you a pile of fake dog poop from Spencer's you'd be ok with that? Some people find that stuff hilarious. Others find it rude and and offensive.

I could care less and my brother would love it.

The point being IF giving and receiving gifts causes so much turmoil and feelings that are hurt why give gifts at all?

Our "gift" as a family is to have an extra day with no planned activites to spend time with each other.
We gather, visit, laugh, and generally have a good time. A couple glasses of wine or a couple beers if you want to partake, good food, numerous desserts, a few guitars, a cello, a base and a couple of harmonicas and we have a good time.

The best part is that no one cares that no one got a gift for or from anyone.
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Old 12-23-2013, 01:09 AM
 
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Re-gifting is tacky IMO, especially when one is so obvious about it. Leaving the card at the bottom of the box from the original gift giver? That is like bringing a cake to a party and eating a piece out of it first.

I don't think I would have the nerve to tell my friend that her re-gifting is hurting my feelings. If she is that clueless to begin with then anything you express is either going fall on deaf ears or turn into a drama. I would probably go the route of not exchanging anymore.
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Old 12-23-2013, 05:28 AM
 
Location: State of Waiting
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What is especially hurtful is that this "friend" has been a "friend" for 30 years - from college days. I have suspected a "regift" in the past but this one is confirmed because of the card in the box that she missed. There have also been other weird really cheap gifts over the years, but I overlooked them. This year was it for me. She is VP of a large company in the midwest, and can well afford to send me gift. However, it is not about the money - she sent me a piece of crap that she got from someone else and didn't want. I see for her, it IS about the money. No denying it.

My esteem for this woman has pretty much gone down out the door after this.
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Old 12-23-2013, 10:05 AM
 
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I am most surprised that people give gifts to their friends at all.

My friends and I give the "gift of time" you could call it. We set aside a bit of time for each other and just appreciate each other. We certainly don't need stuff. And if one of us did, the others would help meet our need.

I'm reminded of George Carlin's comedy routine about "Stuff." lol
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Old 12-23-2013, 10:35 AM
 
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This morning at work someone "gifted" me a 2013 Left-handed calendar lol. I'm like um great I get 8 more days use out of this? THANKS.

Reminded me of this thread lol.

OP send me your address, I have the perfect gift for your friend
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Old 12-23-2013, 11:33 AM
 
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I think regifting is fine if the recipient will like the gift. Then there are times you feel obligated to give a gift to someone and have no clue what they'd want. This is what sounds like happened with the OP they were friends years ago but seem to have drifted apart and because the OP gave a gift the "friend" felt obligated to give a gift too. Not knowing the "friend's" situation it is hard to judge. Financial problems aren't always obvious and it doesn't seem the OP would be happy with any gift she received. I'd say it is best to stop exchanging gifts.
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Old 12-23-2013, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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Am I the only one wanting to know what the gift is?
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Old 12-23-2013, 12:26 PM
 
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I'm not a fan of regifting.

However, outside of the actual gifting process I think it is fine to pass on something you can't use to someone else...just don't wrap it up in Christmas paper.
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Old 12-23-2013, 12:37 PM
 
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My esteem for this woman has pretty much gone down out the door after this.

Dude, don't let this get to you. It isn't about you, it's about her being a boob.
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