Buried with MY family or HERS?

[AZDesertBrat]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

I like the idea of the tree, but if something happened and the tree died at some point I would feel terrible, like the loved one died all over again.

When my best friend died of cancer her husband planted a tree for her in the front yard and sprinkled some of her ashes in it before covering it up. That tree grew like wildfire and is a big beautiful thing today, nearly 16 years later. When my son died a tree was planted in his name and some of his ashes added. Again, a beautiful tree now. So maybe there's something to it??

[texdav]

Originally Posted by Str8Arrow

For those who are married, do you intend to be buried in your family's graveyard or your wife/husband's family's graveyard?


Well my MIL went out and bought my wife and I lots beside her. I guess she's of the age when she is thinking of such things.

Long story short. My wife goes to the same church as her parents and is very religious. The lots are in this church's cemetery in the next town over. About a twenty minute drive from here. This is also her home town.

Now unbeknownst to MIL, my parents bought a clan of lots two decades ago not only for me but for any wife and children I might have. My parents are real religious if that makes a difference. I however am the only one not in any way religious if THAT makes a difference. Well this cemetery has relatives back to the mid 1800s. That and it is on a hill with a bunch of old trees as opposed to MIL's flat soccer field setup.

At first I felt like I didn't give two tiddlies where I was buried but now I really feel the intense urge to be buried at home.

I thought it was tradition the woman be buried with the man's family? I dunno but I would think that the case.

My wife is a lot closer to my family than I am to hers. We also reside in my home town. That being said, she is a lot closer to her family than I am to mine Don't get me wrong, we're close but not lovie dovie huggy kissy close like her's is.

She wants to be buried with her family but said first and foremost she wants to be beside me and would honor any decision I made. Yeah, thanks

So if you were me...

Normally once married the wife is buried in family plot with husband. But no hard and fast rules really.

[MIKEETC]

Originally Posted by Str8Arrow

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So if you were me...

Split the difference like Solomon with a Craftsman circular saw.

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