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Old 01-26-2008, 08:29 PM
 
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I've always had more male friends than female friends. The line was never crossed except once, we were both free of S.Os and it was my decision. Having said that, it doesn't mean that over the years a few others didn't try to cross it, or hinted they wouldn't mind crossing it, but I drew the line. The power is with you to make it so either way..... However, I would think about the ramifications of your actions in this situation, and how you might feel about yourself in the long run. He is in a relationship.
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Old 01-27-2008, 01:18 AM
 
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guys and girls can definately be friends and just friends. my best friend is a guy and while my current boyfriend was little weary at first, he doesn't care at all now because he knows how much our friendship means to me. you have a problem though, just friends only works when you both just want that. but you said you are both sort of attracted to each other -- that isn't just friends anymore. i would say if you can't dismiss those feelings you need to be very careful and not do things with him as just the two of you to safeguard yourself from making any bad decisions.
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Old 01-27-2008, 10:13 AM
 
Location: Northwestern VA
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I'm a single woman and have several male friends that I'm strictly friends with. I think a certain level of maturity is required. I also think that it is my responsibility to befriend my friends wives or girlfriends. If she knows that I don't want anything more than friendship, it makes things much easier.
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Old 05-21-2009, 01:29 PM
 
Location: New England
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Guys and girls can be friends, and i don't think it really requires much maturity. Just don't be a dirty harlot.
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Old 05-22-2009, 09:00 AM
 
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I have online male friends, some of those friendships are over 6 years old.

We share mutal intellectual interests.

Sometimes men and women will meet who share the same interests or talk about different things.

I dont buy this garbage that men and women cannot be friends. Why does everything have to be about SEX in the minds of some people?

In fact I PERFER male friends but since Ive been married its been complicated making any.

I had acouple male friends at my last church, my church died when town did, but I miss talking to those fellows. I was rebuked acouple times for having male friends in my church even online. But I told people that I disagree with this stuff and I said look at me, I am disabled and sick, its not like Im going to get my groove on with anyone.

For me it is an intellectual compatibility thing. I love to talk about politics, not too many woman like to do that.

I befriend MEN in some ways EASIER then woman.
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Old 01-20-2010, 09:42 PM
 
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Default Can men and women just be friends?

As of now I just want friends but it seems most men won't understand this.

I already had to reject two men I would see on a previous job. Basically all we did was talk and flirt a bit, but they took it the wrong way and started talking to me as if I was their girlfriend. They went to the point of overly calling me baby or ''I love you's'' blah... blah.... I know what they were getting to..

Now I'm friends with this other co-worker but I hope he doesn't take it the wrong way either. Can't they for one second see us as friends only? I'm really not interest in relationships nor dating, just a regular talk and hang-up.. same as I would do with female friends and in addition I don't even find then attractive.
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Old 01-20-2010, 09:44 PM
 
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Nope. One of them always wants sex from the other, or is hoping to get some later on down the road. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar.
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Old 01-20-2010, 09:45 PM
 
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I have a hard time having female friends. If they are attractive, well you know. If they are unattractive, they will always talk to me about their boy problems and try to get me to hook them up.

So far, no thanks. (with the exception of maybe 1 or 2)
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Old 01-20-2010, 09:45 PM
 
Location: Kentucky
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Yes.. they can. Most of my friends are guys, always have been.
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Old 01-20-2010, 09:45 PM
 
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As of now I just want friends but it seems most men won't understand this.

I already had to reject two men I would see on a previous job. Basically all we did was talk and flirt a bit, but they took it the wrong way and started talking to me as if I was their girlfriend. They went to the point of overly calling me baby or ''I love you's'' blah... blah.... I know what they were getting to..

Now I'm friends with this other co-worker but I hope he doesn't take it the wrong way either. Can't they for one second see us as friends only? I'm really not interest in relationships nor dating, just a regular talk and hang-up.. same as I would do with female friends....
They can be, I guess? However except on here I don't have any in real life. I have nothing to base it on. Some are becoming more than friends though?LOL..........
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