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Old 12-13-2011, 04:35 PM
 
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It's possible. But given the number of times it comes up in conversation, and I'm not talking about just CD but in regular conversation, in movies/on TV, books, discussions of all kinds, it's obviously not something that happens often without any issues.
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Old 12-13-2011, 04:43 PM
 
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It's actually advantageous for the man to stay friends. Before sex, the woman goes out of her way to get the man interested. Once sex is done, the expectations start. I have a number of women as long-time friends, and those relationships are much more fulfilling than the women I bed.
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Old 12-13-2011, 04:52 PM
 
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Has anybody in here been friends with someone of the opposite sex without sex?

I've travelled on vacation with someone of the opposite sex and there is no sex. So far two or three of them have tried to have sex. Starts with hints, jokes, playful seduction, etc. until said straight out that sex is wanted. I am not obligated to accept. Didn't feel like it so there was no sex.
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Old 12-13-2011, 05:39 PM
 
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For me yes, if the following standards are met

1. She is ugly or not that good looking
2. She is a lesbian
3. She has other benefits like helping me get better grades and helping me out when I need it

other than that no
To be honest if she is a Lesbian I would still give it a shot. Then again looks are a factor with all women.. Some women have mirrors on their headboard.
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Old 12-13-2011, 11:28 PM
 
Location: PA
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You serious? I have a lot of male friends. I don't care what Chris Rock says about male friends being a "d**k in a glass case". He's a comedian, not God. And if they've got a cool girlfriend, it's a two-fer. Good girlfriends are damn hard to come by.
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Old 12-13-2011, 11:42 PM
 
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Saw the movie When Harry met Sally -

I am interest how dating has changed from when I was single. 30 years ago a man asking a women on a date, would be expected to pay for everything working on developing a relationship.

Now-days it seems people have sex first, before a relationship?

"Can a man and a women be friends without Sex? "

or is having sex inevitable?




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I saw this film again just the other day but your question seems a bit muddled rather than the real question in the movie if men and women can be platonic friends. I think you can be platonic if neither is attracted.

Dating hasn't changed (at least not for me and I'm 27). I prefer to develop a friendship first and take things slow. But yeah, it seems many people mistake sexual compatibility for love which is pretty obvious given the divorce stats.
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Old 12-13-2011, 11:58 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I have friends that are girls.. but nothing like a bff type, but they usually don't have sex, it is just typically a guy who is too afraid to make a move on the girl.
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Old 12-14-2011, 01:12 AM
 
Location: midwest
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YES, my best friend since we were kids has been a girl now we are both married and yes life gets in the way but we still talk at least twice a week and consult with eah other anytime we need advise ! We have never been more than friends and we are both attractive people and niether of us benifit from each other in anyway but being friends ? I will admitt it isn't easy explaining it to your spouse and they know about the friendship but usually don't know how often we talk or occasionally get together but our friendship is worth the risk of having to explain if they ever found out !
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Old 12-14-2011, 01:21 AM
 
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YES, my best friend since we were kids has been a girl now we are both married and yes life gets in the way but we still talk at least twice a week and consult with eah other anytime we need advise ! We have never been more than friends and we are both attractive people and niether of us benifit from each other in anyway but being friends ? I will admitt it isn't easy explaining it to your spouse and they know about the friendship but usually don't know how often we talk or occasionally get together but our friendship is worth the risk of having to explain if they ever found out !
Wow, so you keep secrets from your spouses to maintain the friendship? Great. And what do you have to consult with someone else that you can't say to your spouse? Because only your spouse knows your every day self and not your girlfriend and she only hears your side of the story which is why the relationship is dangerous and any advice is irrelevant.
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Old 12-14-2011, 02:12 AM
 
Location: California
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Sure. I've had a couple guy friends in my life that I was close to and never had a physical relationship with. One wanted to though, and that's why the friendship ended eventually. The other was a buddy for years and was there when I got married, and I was there when he got married, and then we drifted apart because we had spouses and our lives went in different directions.
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