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View Poll Results: Would you?
Yes 16 47.06%
No 12 35.29%
Undecided 6 17.65%
Voters: 34. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 01-06-2014, 11:21 PM
 
Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Not including children, but also comment on if you would still sacrifice your life for your child if you knew (say psychically or they told you) that they would not sacrifice their life for you (if the situation arose, of course). Of course one might argue the latter is less 'natural', but I'm sure some children might for various reasons.

I'm speaking mostly about your spouse (who you still love) or a sibling you're very close to. Assume that they loved you, but they said they just couldn't give their life for you. I'm not saying not wanting to sacrifice yourself makes you bad or you should be expected to, but it would probably factor into your willingness to lay down your life to save them. For instance, if you had to take a bullet for them. Let's stick to a theoretical situation and stick to it being hypothetical without too many 'if's' or 'buts'. Don't bring your real life situation into it and give reasons as a cop out. Just a simple yes or no with reasoning, or else don't answer.

I have to admit I probably would not. Maybe it makes me selfish, but I could only do it for someone who loved me that much. If I had a wife and children, it might be nobler if she is the principle care-giver, but I don't think I could bring myself to do it if they wouldn't do it. The thing is, I would hardly EXPECT anyone to do that for me in the first place anyway. I think the whole idea of self-sacrifice goes against nature, but if someone truly believes that another deserves to live more than they than I do have some sort of deep respect for them as well.
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Old 01-07-2014, 12:52 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Probably Not. I apologize if this sounds selfish, but if I were to make that sacrifice, then they would need to be willing to likewise do the same if I would want them to do this. Also, this applies to any family member of mine.
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Old 01-07-2014, 12:53 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Of course one might argue the latter is less 'natural', but I'm sure some children might for various reasons.
Why exactly is something being natural vs. non-natural relevant here?
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Old 01-07-2014, 01:12 AM
 
Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Why exactly is something being natural vs. non-natural relevant here?
Think about it, why would a person be more willing to sacrifice their life for child than a parent, sibling, spouse. Simply biology/evolutionary psychology.etc.
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Old 01-07-2014, 02:19 AM
 
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"Don't bring your real life situations into it..."


Seriously, then what's the point?

Just your added elaboration in the above post will eventually yield someone to draw on their real life experiences. It's how people shape the way they feel and is extremely relevant. Is this just some kind of homework project or just a numbers thing?
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Old 01-07-2014, 06:51 AM
 
Location: Leeds, UK
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I have no idea - I have never been in that situation before, and I hope I never am.
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Old 01-07-2014, 07:17 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I have no idea - I have never been in that situation before, and I hope I never am.
Pretty much the answer!
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Old 01-07-2014, 07:32 AM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Yes I would.

My policy is to save those in my family and close friends from distress when in need and not expect anything in return.

I have only done it once before to a close friend of mine when he was in financial trouble after his father had severe health problems. My buddy needed a computer to study engineering at a well reputed university, but his family was poor and made spending for his dad's healthcare the priority. Hearing his heart touching story, I decided to donate my in tact desktop along with my chair, work table, and reading lamp free of cost along with a donation from my dad for him to get through college expenses. He is in his senior year of college with a well paying job at his hands now, and always thanks me for my act of kindness aiding his success. I expect nothing in return from him unless he is willing to offer me something. Knowing I changed his life for the better is in itself a great source of satisfaction for me .
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Old 01-07-2014, 07:53 AM
 
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It's not about how they feel about me. It's about who I am. That's what guides my actions.
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Old 01-07-2014, 08:33 AM
 
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Yes I would.

My policy is to save those in my family and close friends from distress when in need and not expect anything in return.

I have only done it once before to a close friend of mine when he was in financial trouble after his father had severe health problems. My buddy needed a computer to study engineering at a well reputed university, but his family was poor and made spending for his dad's healthcare the priority. Hearing his heart touching story, I decided to donate my in tact desktop along with my chair, work table, and reading lamp free of cost along with a donation from my dad for him to get through college expenses. He is in his senior year of college with a well paying job at his hands now, and always thanks me for my act of kindness aiding his success. I expect nothing in return from him unless he is willing to offer me something. Knowing I changed his life for the better is in itself a great source of satisfaction for me .
OOPS! Be careful. He expressly said in his OP that you were not to bring real life experiences into this or don't post.

(See how that's working OP)
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