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Old 03-11-2014, 05:19 PM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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Her when she and Rachel are in the house together: " You know she's just using him so she can get pregnant and have us pay child support. She's so trashy. Her time is up."

Her if I take her out to dinner: " Remember that time we... That was so funny"

Which would you deal with?

 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:22 PM
 
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Congrats to your son on all of his gains in recent months.
Yeah, I'm very proud of him.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:39 PM
 
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Her when she and Rachel are in the house together: " You know she's just using him so she can get pregnant and have us pay child support. She's so trashy. Her time is up."

Her if I take her out to dinner: " Remember that time we... That was so funny"

Which would you deal with?
Don't act like those are the only 2 choices. You just go on and admit to yourself that you'll do whatever to enable and appease your wife. Your wife is simply playing up this situation because she needs you to indulge her.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:41 PM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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Don't act like those are the only 2 choices. You just go on and admit to yourself that you'll do whatever to enable and appease your wife. Your wife is simply playing up this situation because she needs you to indulge her.
What's the 3rd option? I've done both of these. I've lived through these experiences, this is what she does.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:44 PM
 
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There are many options, you certainly haven't tried it all. Stop lying.

For one, you can say: "That's nice, dear." And walk off.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:46 PM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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There are many options, you certainly haven't tried it all. Stop lying.

For one, you can say: "That's nice, dear." And walk off.
I'm not lying. You know what happens when you say " That's nice dear" and walk away? She'd follow you and keep talking.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 05:50 PM
 
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It's called disengagement. Don't get sucked in. You don't have to listen.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 06:01 PM
 
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It's called disengagement. Don't get sucked in. You don't have to listen.
She'd just keep talking and following me until I give in to her.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 06:07 PM
 
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Keep in mind how she was raised.
 
Old 03-11-2014, 06:26 PM
 
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Keep in mind how she was raised.
And enabled by you. So stop throwing shade on your wife and acting like it's all her. Again, nothing says you have to listen. Or even tolerate it... as in... tell her to knock it off (and if she curses you out again, shrug and walk off). The fact that you give/gave in was the choice you made. Everything you've done so far was to validate her and her position. You've done it for so long it's become a bad habit. You haven't yet shown you really want to break this bad habit.

Good for your son for finally getting a job, but shame on you for making him appease your wife for your convenience.
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