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I'm sorry guys, but just sticking to this thread and some of the other's I've read, this issue here is not as uncommon as people think it is.
Typically it happens with the mother to her first born, her last male son, or the only one. Many fathers react like this regarding their daughters. Did any of you see the movie "Meet the Parents" in which this very thing was what the movie was about?
You're obviously a very kind person, but I'm sure you'll eventually get why the OP is very exasperating and his family situation is actually quite sad and frustrating (even for us, and the thing of it is.... we are not even living it).
But no one said is saying it's uncommon... Good advice and commentary are generally wasted on this particular poster. Had it been any other poster, it would've been a serious (and helpful) conversation.
You're obviously a very kind person, but I'm sure you'll eventually get why the OP is very exasperating and his family situation is actually quite sad and frustrating (even for us, and the thing of it is.... we are not even living it).
But no one said is saying it's uncommon... Good advice and commentary are generally wasted on this particular poster. Had it been any other poster, it would've been a serious (and helpful) conversation.
I took the advice and went to therapy thus improving my father/son relationship as you might recall.
I took the advice and went to therapy thus improving my father/son relationship as you might recall.
The prior poster was referring to your relationship with your wife.
Anyway, since when does a 19-yr old young man need permission from mommy to get a job? I'll tell you when, since he possibly doesn't really want to work, and uses it as his excuse to lie to dad about actually wanting to work. All the responsibility and blame is off of him and he plays his parents against each other because mom is the head of household. Dad is just there to pay the bills, thus making him get a job is futile. You will be supporting him and his future wife and their kids for the rest of their lives.
Now go thank your wife for that.
Of course, you could always tell your son to ignore what his mom says and just do it. And that if mom tells him to leave the house, to ignore that, too. And you darn well better be there to stand up to her for him. Dreams.
I'm sorry guys, but just sticking to this thread and some of the other's I've read, this issue here is not as uncommon as people think it is.
Typically it happens with the mother to her first born, her last male son, or the only one. Many fathers react like this regarding their daughters. Did any of you see the movie "Meet the Parents" in which this very thing was what the movie was about?
Sure, it's common.
In this case, its a teeny, tiny item on their list of problems.
I'll just tell him to go on with his relationship and I'll handle his mom.
With your previous methods of flowers and gifts?
Nothing has changed in your situation. Both your wife and your son need to grow up. The best thing you could do for the boy is send him away to college, and away from his mother.
you're obviously a very kind person, but i'm sure you'll eventually get why the op is very exasperating and his family situation is actually quite sad and frustrating (even for us, and the thing of it is.... We are not even living it).
But no one said is saying it's uncommon... Good advice and commentary are generally wasted on this particular poster. Had it been any other poster, it would've been a serious (and helpful) conversation.
lol and I'm sure my fellow posters who know me are doing the same.
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