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"Treating her as she acts" will not solve anything.
There is no resolution unless the OP is ready to give the "Marriage counseling or Divorce" ultimatum (with every intention of backing it up).
The only thing he can do is: Put up/Shut up (which wifey wants him to do), One-upping/pot shots (which is what the OP usually end up doing) or disengagement (which clearly the OP will need training on, I don't understand why he's not learning this in his counseling sessions).
I agree with both of you. It's why all his threads sound the same.
He is back at that fork in the road, but instead of going forward, he just keeps turning around and going back down the same road because it's familiar to him.
I agree with both of you. It's why all his threads sound the same.
He is back at that fork in the road, but instead of going forward, he just keeps turning around and going back down the same road because it's familiar to him.
I agree with both of you. It's why all his threads sound the same.
He is back at that fork in the road, but instead of going forward, he just keeps turning around and going back down the same road because it's familiar to him.
Yes, exactly. We had given all the advice we could give a long time ago. He just needs to take it.
For one thing it will limit her spending, she spends more than $300, not like a lot more, but more. I saw somewhere on her someone brought up limiting spending so I'm mulling it over.
So everything else is the same but she's limited to spending $300/wk? How does that really change anything of importance?
It doesn't...but it might wake her up a bit. To be honestly, unless she also buying for the household...it's too much money to reward her with for acting like a spoiled brat.
Personally, unless she wanted to be part of the family...she shouldn't get to enjoy what being part of the family involves...and that included unlimited spending money.
The OP should cut it down to half of that unless she goes to marriage counselling.
I will sit down and talk financial planning with her. I think a budget would be a good idea for her, 300 a week sounds about right.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
... and that will fix what??
I'm speculating that Irish is trying to help his spouse become more of an equal partner in the marriage by discussing finances and budgeting as opposed to just "putting her on a budget"/giving her a set amount of money to spent.
At least that is what I'm hoping that he is doing.
Regarding $300 a week---it depends greatly on what she is expected to use the $300 to purchase.
$300 to use for grocery shopping, dry cleaning expenses, and other house hold responsibilities?
Or $300 a week for her personal expenses such as mani-pedis, spa treatments, lunch with friends, etc?
Or $300 for her just to spent on flowers and Godiva Chocolates for herself each week?
That is a very big difference between what the $300 per week to be used to purchase.
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