The back story for the "drama" behind this can be read at a previous thread
Mother in law problems with child... what to do
So, I asked my husband to read through that thread to see I am not the only one who thinks the way I do, or feels the way I do about how the issue could be resolved. Well... he said he would handle it when the time came.
MIL continued to direct nasty Facebook memes and passive aggressive comments at me, but DH kept telling me that I was being vain thinking they were about me. He doesnt feel her thoughts would ever be directed towards me (afterall, obviously I'm not all she thinks about), and that it was in my head.
Well the other day I posted a thread on facebook thanking my husband for reminding me that we live our lives to be happy, not to appease others. He responded to my post with a recent meme from MIL facebook page that said something along the lines of "I don't give a ^$ what people think of me, I say what I want." I knew that was going to upset her, and told him. He said it fit what he was telling me about not worrying about others, and that is was fine. Well MIL comes on telling me to look in the mirrow and she doesn't give a flying you know what what I think but that those throwing stones usually live in glass houses.
Granted, my husband posted it, but she attacked me instead. This was my last straw and simply told her "The post has nothing to do with you, I don't know what you are ranting about but you are the last person who should be throwing stones. Be careful who's toes you step on." She came back with "oh no you didn't don't make me go there.. with a few explicitives and insults. I basically told her I had a perfect idea for where she could go. DH asked me to delete post entirely, and I did.
I know this is long, so I'll sum it up from here. She called me his "$%^# wife" and he finally stood up for me. Told her that she was wrong and needed to apologize so we could all move forward as a family. He told her I had nothing to do with the issues at Thanksgiving, and that she was creating a problem that didn't need to be there. She told him that she was never going to let a woman get between them and he told he I was never trying to do that and that he should never have to choose between his mother and wife. She told him not to make the decision, that she would do it for him, and good bye. He told her that she was proving how dysfunctional their family was and that its on her if they aren't talking. That he couldn't believe she rather not talk to him than to admit she was wrong and apologize.
This was a week ago. Nobody has heard from her. I have since removed her from my friends list since her last two posts were along the lines of "people tell you whats wrong with you when they can't handle that theres so much right with you."
Needless to say I am upset, hubby is upset, MIL hates me more than ever. I just don't see how this could end well. I really want a good relationship with her, despite her flaws. We all have flaws. I just want to be accepted, not walked all over and for hubby to keep his relationship with his mom.
Thanks to anyone who stuck through this whole thing.
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