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Keep in mind, I was reading something and distracted. And, to me, holding the door is no big deal.
People have expectations that aren't met all the time. Was she over the top not to just let it go? Maybe. But judging isn't our job. Was she human and disappointed? Sounds like it.
I like to thank people, it is a nice way to connect to the world at large. We are all walking a path and sometimes we connect, sometimes we don't. Sounds like you both didn't connect as the other expected.
However, this one time a young woman's hand was full of stuff and she wanted to open the door, umbrella, and yap on her I phone at the same time. I helped her open the door, and the reply she gave was "this creepy looking Asian guy helped me out. I am so totally messed up today ". Kind of hurt me to know that my help was hated. But anyways, listening to insults being thrown at me is a part of my daily life.
As I, a man, was walking out of an office building, while holding a paper and reading it, a woman was right in front of me, opened the door and held the door for me (just held the door for a fraction of a second and NO hold and wait for me to walk fast and arrive at the door, since I was just right behind her).
Since I was concentrating on the paper and since I have done it (holding the door for others) thousands of times for others without any expectation or reaction in return, I didn't say anything. The woman goes "A THANK YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE!" while giving me the evil look.
Am I at fault or is she over-reacting or over-expecting?
I think a better response for her to have given you: "You're welcome", with a little grin.
But yeah, I say thank you. I also understand that people aren't always paying attention...no biggie. Once when I was shopping with a friend and someone bumped into her she said: "Excuse you". I liked that!
LOL!!! This reminds me of the time when my mother held open a door for a guy who only looked at her sideways and proceeded through without saying anything. "THANK YOU!!" she yelled, and she bitched to my sister-in-law about ill-mannered college kids. (You had to be there to see the humor in it.)
I always hold doors open for people, even men, and those who don't thank me are few. I figure if that's the worst thing to happen to me then I'm having a good day.
You were both a bit rude really. You were rude not to say thank you and she was just as rude, if not more so, for drawing attention to the fact that you didn't say thank you.
Two wrongs don't make a right and although she was rude, you should be focusing on the task at hand. Multitasking while walking or driving is probably not a good idea.
Keep in mind, I was reading something and distracted. And, to me, holding the door is no big deal.
If you had walked into someone while you were reading/walking would you have not said "Excuse Me" since you were reading and thus "distracted"?
And whether holding the door open for you is a big deal or not, she did something for you and you should have acknowledged it with a polite smile and a sincere "Thank you".
If everyone did that, this whole world would be a better place for all of us.
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It's called common courtesy.
". Kind of hurt me to know that my help was hated. But anyways, listening to insults being thrown at me is a part of my daily life.
