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Old 02-14-2014, 06:51 PM
 
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I agree with those who say it's just a manner of speaking and not a deliberate signal or lack of respect. When a friend says I'll call you tomorrow, unless there is some urgent matter at hand, it generally means they will call if they remember to and have free time. It's not on par with a wedding vow.
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Old 02-14-2014, 10:50 PM
 
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Mine too.

I guess she has a need to believe that some guy is in love with her.

That was X number of years ago, that's not today.

She THINKS I want her to call me but in fact I'd rather not talk to her. I don't expect a call, I let her promises go over my head, and I listen when she tells me she's sorry she didn't call and she'll call me tomorrow but believe me...........I don't expect her to call and its no loss.
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Old 02-14-2014, 10:55 PM
 
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She is not interested in maintaining any relationship with you. Her actions (or inactions) are telling you all you need to know; you just need to listen. There is no point calling her out on it. Best of luck moving forward and onto other, more reciprocal relationships.
This. ^^^
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Old 02-14-2014, 10:56 PM
 
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And she's done it like three or four times. I've even pulled her up on it. I've told her its rude. But she's done it again. I even told her if she can't call me to just send me a text to let me know.

A little backstory. We were once romantic but aren't any longer. We've been close for eight plus years. She calls me her best friend.

Last night I called her. We talked for twenty minutes or so then she said she had to get some sleep. She said she'd call me tomorrow. She never called.

I'm not sure if I should just let it go or pull her up on it again. It just makes me angry. Should it? Mind you, not furious or anything. But I just find it kind of disrespectful.

Call her and ask her why she did not call you when she said she would then tell her you find that disrespectful because you expect someone to do exactly what they state they are going to do.

The fact that you continue to allow her to treat you this way is the exact reason she treats you this way.
It is your choice to continue to allow this and continue to contact her or don't contact her and let it go from there.
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Old 02-14-2014, 11:02 PM
 
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This. ^^^
um no

the person that posted that doesn't know what they are talking about. They probably post that doom and gloom stuff to everyone's relationship question.
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Old 02-15-2014, 03:27 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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Ha ha. Sorry, but I had to laugh. I'm not sure how you could come to this bleak conclusion from what I provided.

We've been very close for a long time and if she didn't want any kind of relationship she wouldn't call me at all. She is the one that initiates most the calls.

I'm simply frustrated at her phone etiquette.
Sorry to hear her phone etiquette, or lack thereof, frustrates you. You've said you've talked to her about it in the past, but she continues with the same behavior. If you find these dynamics acceptable and want to continue the relationship, then it's best to accept her the way she is and remain friends. If you find it unacceptable, you can always move on. Good luck.
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Old 02-15-2014, 07:35 AM
 
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I wouldn't let it bother you, she probably meant to and things come up and she forgets.
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Old 02-15-2014, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Miss Jankins (Say nothing bad).
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And she's done it like three or four times. I've even pulled her up on it. I've told her its rude. But she's done it again. I even told her if she can't call me to just send me a text to let me know.

A little backstory. We were once romantic but aren't any longer. We've been close for eight plus years. She calls me her best friend.

Last night I called her. We talked for twenty minutes or so then she said she had to get some sleep. She said she'd call me tomorrow. She never called.

I'm not sure if I should just let it go or pull her up on it again. It just makes me angry. Should it? Mind you, not furious or anything. But I just find it kind of disrespectful.
Her new man came over. Move on!
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Old 02-15-2014, 11:08 AM
 
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Let it go, as other posters here have mentioned,just take it that she uses 'I'll call you tomorrow' the way some people use goodnight, don't expect her to do it when she says she will , and you've been friend-zoned, so if at any time you were thinking that you might re-kindle the relationship, you won't, it's time to move on, plenty of fish etc etc
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Old 02-15-2014, 12:48 PM
 
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Let it go, as other posters here have mentioned,just take it that she uses 'I'll call you tomorrow' the way some people use goodnight, don't expect her to do it when she says she will , and you've been friend-zoned, so if at any time you were thinking that you might re-kindle the relationship, you won't, it's time to move on, plenty of fish etc etc
I love how some people think they know everything. We put each other in the friend-zone because we no longer live in the same city. You don't know her or me. So, your statement that the romance won't be re-kindled is based on what?
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