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Old 02-14-2014, 12:10 AM
 
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And she's done it like three or four times. I've even pulled her up on it. I've told her its rude. But she's done it again. I even told her if she can't call me to just send me a text to let me know.

A little backstory. We were once romantic but aren't any longer. We've been close for eight plus years. She calls me her best friend.

Last night I called her. We talked for twenty minutes or so then she said she had to get some sleep. She said she'd call me tomorrow. She never called.

I'm not sure if I should just let it go or pull her up on it again. It just makes me angry. Should it? Mind you, not furious or anything. But I just find it kind of disrespectful.
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Old 02-14-2014, 03:04 AM
 
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People suck at friendships...
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Old 02-14-2014, 05:34 AM
 
Location: BK All Day
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And she's done it like three or four times. I've even pulled her up on it. I've told her its rude. But she's done it again. I even told her if she can't call me to just send me a text to let me know.

A little backstory. We were once romantic but aren't any longer. We've been close for eight plus years. She calls me her best friend.

Last night I called her. We talked for twenty minutes or so then she said she had to get some sleep. She said she'd call me tomorrow. She never called.

I'm not sure if I should just let it go or pull her up on it again. It just makes me angry. Should it? Mind you, not furious or anything. But I just find it kind of disrespectful.

It's not frivolous at all and I see exactly what you are saying. It's not so much about this one instance as it is about little things adding up over time.

I wouldn't call her until she calls you.
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Old 02-14-2014, 05:40 AM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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It appears that you care more about her than she cares about you. I'd quit contacting her, make new friends, and move on. You really don't people like this in your life. You deserve better than this.
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Old 02-14-2014, 05:44 AM
 
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depends on how much the friendship means to you.

For some people "call you tomorrow" doesn't mean call you tomorrow. It means I'll talk to you sometime in the near future.

I agree with you, I think it is rude, but that's the way it is.
I doubt the person will change.
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Old 02-14-2014, 07:22 AM
 
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And she's done it like three or four times. I've even pulled her up on it. I've told her its rude. But she's done it again. I even told her if she can't call me to just send me a text to let me know.

A little backstory. We were once romantic but aren't any longer. We've been close for eight plus years. She calls me her best friend.

Last night I called her. We talked for twenty minutes or so then she said she had to get some sleep. She said she'd call me tomorrow. She never called.

I'm not sure if I should just let it go or pull her up on it again. It just makes me angry. Should it? Mind you, not furious or anything. But I just find it kind of disrespectful.
You are needy and still aren't over her. This is likely her subconscious way of telling you that you are suffocating her. Give her some distance and get over it.
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Old 02-14-2014, 07:29 AM
 
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You are needy and still aren't over her. This is likely her subconscious way of telling you that you are suffocating her. Give her some distance and get over it.
That was my first thought.
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Old 02-14-2014, 07:38 AM
 
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When she hangs up to "get some sleep" that means she has gotten bored with the conversation. Saying call you tomorrow is just an easy way of ending the call without hurting your feelings. She doesn't call the next day because she has nothing new to say. Does she ever call you or are you the one that typically initiates the call?
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Old 02-14-2014, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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She is not interested in maintaining any relationship with you. Her actions (or inactions) are telling you all you need to know; you just need to listen. There is no point calling her out on it. Best of luck moving forward and onto other, more reciprocal relationships.
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Old 02-14-2014, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Earth
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She doesn't respect you...it's as simple as that!
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