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I've been friends with this girl for twenty years. When we were younger, we partied a lot and generally acted irresponsible, but she never grew out of that behavior. She is now over 30 and doing the same things that she did when we were in our teens. She still does drugs (marijuana, cocaine, and whatever else comes along), drinks nearly every day, and smokes like a chimney. In fact, she is a couple of months pregnant right now and she's still smoking.
I think she's a sociopath because of the way she manipulates people, especially men. She likes to be the center of attention at all times, almost like she expects all the attention to be on her. She works as a waitress and makes friends with her customers, which are usually dirty old men. She then flirts with these guys and gets them to give her money and buy her things. She has gotten trips, clothes, jewelry, alcohol and drugs, and even a car this way. She does not care about these men and badmouths them behind their backs, but continues to take whatever she can from them. The main guy who is "funding" her right now is a different guy than her boyfriend.
When other people talk, she doesn't listen. She's only interested in the conversation if it's about her or pertaining to her life in some way. She likes to make the rules and expects other people to follow her plan. When we go out together, which is only a couple of times a year because I live on the other side of the country, she gets very competitive about who has more male attention. We are both social and outgoing, but I am there to have a good time, not to compete.
Her family doesn't seem to notice or care that she is this way. Her mother is very wealthy and gives her money on a regular basis, including paying her rent.
I don't know, but she doesn't sound like good friend material. I am shocked that she is smoking, and possibly drinking, when pregnant. I wonder if her "wealthy" mother knows this? She needs an intervention because of her pregnancy. Otherwise, I'd keep out of her life, because eventually she will try to borrow money from you, or otherwise use you if she is in a jam.
I don't know, but she doesn't sound like good friend material. I am shocked that she is smoking, and possibly drinking, when pregnant. I wonder if her "wealthy" mother knows this? She needs an intervention because of her pregnancy. Otherwise, I'd keep out of her life, because eventually she will try to borrow money from you, or otherwise use you if she is in a jam.
Yes she is drinking too. I don't know if her mother knows about it, but her mother has always treated her like she can do no wrong, like she's the golden child. I used to get the feeling like her mother wanted to be her. The mother was always talking about her daughter's "gorgeous figure", to the point where it was uncomfortable.
I agree that I need to get her out of my life. Luckily we live so far apart that it's not hard to avoid her. I don't even enjoy seeing her anymore, because she is such an energy sucker. She doesn't know how to give in a friendship.
I agree that I need to get her out of my life. Luckily we live so far apart that it's not hard to avoid her. I don't even enjoy seeing her anymore, because she is such an energy sucker. She doesn't know how to give in a friendship.
That's pretty callous. She already knows that little untold secret and she simply doesn't have to do anything. Never has and never had to. So, when are you really going to have the courage to tell her? In all honesty, you and her mother have a lot in common. Blaming her mother may be easy for you but you are suppose to be the friend for 20 plus years. So, what's up with that?
Yes, I was thinking the same. Not a sociopath, but a person that's emotionally/mentally stunted.
Bingo. She's never had to put any effort into anything because that is all she knows. While I am certainly not a professional, I would reasonably say she's emotionally about thirteen years old.
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.....I think she's a sociopath because of the way she manipulates people, especially men. She likes to be the center of attention at all times, almost like she expects all the attention to be on her....
so·ci·o·path
1. a person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience.
This is the definition of a sociopath (google knows lots of things)
This person you are calling your friend sounds like a spoiled brat who has never been taught how to be responsible nor held accountable for her actions.
If you don't want to spend time with her why do you?
Even if it is only a couple times a year isn't that a couple times a year too many?
It appears you stay in contact with her other ways as well so perhaps you really don't want to get away from her.
If you did there would be no contact, no getting together, and you would not know she is pregnant let alone the more personal information about her like she is smoking and drinking while she is pregnant.
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