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Old 03-23-2014, 03:49 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I want to be friends but no sex, for sure. If he goes down the "kissing, touching" route, I'll just drop him and his so-called friendship.
Please be careful playing that game. It can turn ugly very quickly and you may not be in a position to say "no."
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Old 03-23-2014, 04:35 PM
 
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In your opening post you stated the two of you cannot get your hands of each other. Making out is sex, unless you only call sex intercourse.


This sounds like one of those story likes: "I don't know how it happened, but we ended up in bed, I never planned to do that."
"I decided to spend the night at his place so we could cuddle in bed in our underwear and watch movies. I can't believe he tried to have sex with me, what a pig!"

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Old 03-23-2014, 04:37 PM
 
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"i decided to spend the night at his place so we could cuddle in bed in our underwear and watch movies. I can't believe he tried to have sex with me, what a pig!"

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Old 03-23-2014, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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"I decided to spend the night at his place so we could cuddle in bed in our underwear and watch movies. I can't believe he tried to have sex with me, what a pig!"

It sure won't be like this. I'm not dumb enough to put myself in such position.
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Old 03-23-2014, 04:59 PM
 
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so hang on what's the question again?

How can we be friends when we have ONE WAY sexual attraction (you to him) and ZERO emotional connection?

You cant. Why would you even want to.
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Old 03-23-2014, 05:04 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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so hang on what's the question again?

How can we be friends when we have ONE WAY sexual attraction (you to him) and ZERO emotional connection?

You cant. Why would you even want to.
You didn't read my post properly because if you did, you would have gathered the sexual attraction is mutual. Probably more him than me.
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Old 03-23-2014, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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so hang on what's the question again?

How can we be friends when we have ONE WAY sexual attraction (you to him) and ZERO emotional connection?

You cant. Why would you even want to.
That's not the situation at all. There is a huge amount of sexual attraction going both ways, zero emotional connection, he wants an FWB, and she wants to be "just friends" (whatever that means). Good luck with that
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Old 03-23-2014, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Smile Maybe I'm dumb

The fact that you have fun with him - isn't that a type of emotional connection? Friendship builds over time. You never know.
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Old 03-23-2014, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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The fact that you have fun with him - isn't that a type of emotional connection? Friendship builds over time. You never know.
Well, we definitely had fun but more in a siblings/friends kind of way (teasing each other, sharing childhood memories, silly inside jokes ...). Our dates lasted 8 to 9 hours each time (zero sex only convos and making out).

It's just he and I don't have the same vision about love and I feel as though that's the reason why it didn't go any further. We talked about our respective visions on love and it caused our connection to crumble I think. He's claims he's idealistic as he believes in perfect love and happily ever after, and complained I was too "jaded" because I don't believe in happily ever after and "perfect" love. He also kept reminding me of the fact I have never been in love and made it sound bad (we shared our "relationship" records on date one ... which he initiated). We just don't have a "romantic" connection.

The truth of the matter is, he brought the "love" subject on date #3 and truthfully, I just didn't feel comfortable talking about it so early on. I was holding back and concealed my real opinion because there's no point in appearing vulnerable early on. We're just getting to know each other. It just kept going south afterwards.


I feel as though we rushed things way too soon because we undoubtedly had an amazing connection from before date 1. The rush caused the situation to crumble and fall. I mean we shared our relationship records, heartbreaks, family stories, political/religious/values views (which matched) on date 1 on top of talking about our vision on marriage and heavy making out/sexual attraction. We definitely went way too fast.

That's why, we'd be better off as friends.

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Old 03-23-2014, 07:38 PM
 
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You didn't read my post properly because if you did, you would have gathered the sexual attraction is mutual. Probably more him than me.
And you think that is a biggy. He is more attracted than you. Does that validate you? Does that mean you have something special over him?

Lets me sincere here. If this guy wanted to date you properly you would be all over him.
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