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Old 03-22-2014, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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So I met this guy last year, we went on a couple of dates last year and in February/March of this year. However, he started ignoring me afterwards. Fast forward, he now just contacted me and told me he wants to be friends (just friends).

We both acknowledged we have no emotional connection but we had a lot of fun when we hung out. The thing is despite the fact that we have zero emotional connection, we have insane physical chemistry. Back when we would go on dates, we just couldn't keep away from one another. We were all over each other and would have steamy make out sessions that could have turned into sex if we weren't in public. When we were going on dates, he admitted multiple times he was insanely attracted to me and thinks I'm "just so damn hot" (his exact words).

To sum this up, we have a mental and a physical connection, but no emotional attraction.

I wanna be friends with him because he's cool but I'm not sure how we're going to make this work considering the fact we had acknowledged we're very attracted to one another? We have zero emotional connection though. How to make it work?

*We've never had sex

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Old 03-22-2014, 03:49 PM
 
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He wants a F-buddy. If you don't want that, better walk way.
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Old 03-22-2014, 03:51 PM
 
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He wants a F-buddy. If you don't want that, better walk way.
Yea, that's pretty much what I got out of this as well, especially after you mentioned how much you guys couldn't keep your hands off of each other. He probably remembered you in a physical way and is trying to get back in on some of that action, albeit casually.
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Old 03-22-2014, 03:52 PM
 
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I doubt he wants to be friends at all, he wants someone to call for casual sex when he can't find anyone else.
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Old 03-22-2014, 03:59 PM
 
Location: California
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Yup, fbuddy. You can't just decide to be friends with someone either.
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Old 03-22-2014, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Empire State of Philly
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Yup, fbuddy. You can't just decide to be friends with someone either.
Well, he gave me a bunch of reasons such as he doesn't have a lot of friends in this town, we had fun yadi yada.
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Old 03-22-2014, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Doesn't matter what his reasons are.

YOUR reasons should be telling you he is NOT a friend.
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Old 03-22-2014, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Cary, NC
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This sounds like exactly what I think of a "friends with benefits" relationship is supposed to me. Friends, benefit, no emotional committment. If you are interested in sex without the committment, you have the perfect opportunity here.

Most people tend to forget the importance of being friends in a relationship like you. I consider you very lucky to find someone you connect so well with in a physical and mental way.

If you aren't interested in sex with him, you should probably walk away.
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Old 03-22-2014, 06:20 PM
 
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So I met this guy last year, we went on a couple of dates last year and in February/March of this year. However, he started ignoring me afterwards. Fast forward, he now just contacted me and told me he wants to be friends (just friends).

We both acknowledged we have no emotional connection but we had a lot of fun when we hung out. The thing is despite the fact that we have zero emotional connection, we have insane physical chemistry. Back when we would go on dates, we just couldn't keep away from one another. We were all over each other and would have steamy make out sessions that could have turned into sex if we weren't in public. When we were going on dates, he admitted multiple times he was insanely attracted to me and thinks I'm "just so damn hot" (his exact words).

To sum this up, we have a mental and a physical connection, but no emotional attraction.

I wanna be friends with him because he's cool but I'm not sure how we're going to make this work considering the fact we had acknowledged we're very attracted to one another? We have zero emotional connection though. How to make it work?

*We've never had sex
He wants a friend with benefits, which is the polite term for a girl that would put out when he is horny.

Once you have sex a few times you will become emotionally attached. This is how it is for a lot of women. Are you out of options? Are you an older woman? Why pay attention to this guy?
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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He wants a F-buddy. If you don't want that, better walk way.
Yep, if you get tired of this guy, let me know, I need a deal like that.


Seriously though, you are being used unless you like it this way. Your call.

Don
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