what do you think when someone says 2 sides to every story? (girlfriend, boyfriend)
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I was over at a friends house and we were talking about a mutual friends ex-husband. I said, well there ware 2 sides to every story. She was furious that I said such a thing. My friend said that when people say that, it's like saying that's it's one persons fault.
What I meant by that, and I told her this as well, is that I have to hear both sides to make any decision about someone. To dislike someone based on what someone says about them, it's ignorant.
My friend has a lot of girlfriends who are "divorced" from terrible awful guys. I'm not saying that they aren't really terrible awful guys, just that I can't make up my mind until I meet them myself.
This is causing a rift in our relationship now. She thinks I'm wrong and I think she's being ignorant.
I was over at a friends house and we were talking about a mutual friends ex-husband. I said, well there ware 2 sides to every story. She was furious that I said such a thing. My friend said that when people say that, it's like saying that's it's one persons fault.
What I meant by that, and I told her this as well, is that I have to hear both sides to make any decision about someone. To dislike someone based on what someone says about them, it's ignorant.
My friend has a lot of girlfriends who are "divorced" from terrible awful guys. I'm not saying that they aren't really terrible awful guys, just that I can't make up my mind until I meet them myself.
This is causing a rift in our relationship now. She thinks I'm wrong and I think she's being ignorant.
Thoughts?
She's being ridiculous. When you're talking about someone's marriage/relationship, there ARE two sides to every story because there are (at least) TWO people involved.
Thanks everyone. I've had friends, a husband, boyfriends, who I can tell someone all the bad stuff they to me but should whoever I tell actually dislike this person because of what I say? Or would the more impartial way of finding out about someone is to listen to them talk and make up your own mind?
I think you have to use your own mind and your judgement about people. Listen to both sides and then make up your mind.
Your friend's an immature reactive idiot.
You are 100% correct.
I listen to my divorced friends and it goes right outta my head...means nothing what they
say beause it takes 2 to Tango...I love each the same.
Each made mikstakes...each could have done better.
So what's new.
My friend a therapist for years said the No.1 issue boils down to a
lack of appreciation. I agree.
In friendships also...its like rep points...praise is free...I give so many reps
they say no more in a 24 hr period!!!
The only time I take sides is when there was imbezzlement (running off
leaving the other with a $40k debt).
Or phys abuse.
Sorry. I draw the line.
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