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Facebook lends itself to REALLY shallow types of interactions. I would say the 10-15 people you are talking about inviting to your 2nd account are more likely closer to "friends" than the 162 who barely know you. Particularly if you don't run around with them, as opposed to interacting mostly on FB.
You need to meet people to make real friends. I know social anxiety can make that difficult, but it is possible to at least lessen those effects through exposure (eg getting out and about with a friend or two once in awhile).
That doesn't have to mean bar-hopping or anything outrageous like that. Fishing, hiking, biking, a book club - anything that you enjoy can be done in the company of a friend, or you can make friends by going to arranged activities. Sierra Club organizes hikes, and a library might be a good place to look for a book club or information about local book clubs.
@Kibbiekat I wouldnt say actively I post at least once a week however not everyday. IDK some of the people that im following not even that but im starting to realize that alot of people are narcissistic on facebook they post like every hour or post a picture of them everyday. Its really annoying really! Im seeing this on my news feed. Or people putting their personal business on their statuses which to me most would keep to themselves. I can blast all my personal problems on forums like this because no one really knows who I am but you wont see me ever posting these on my fb.
Don't worry about it. (Happy Birthday btw!)
If you're not a regular poster, or play games, you won't have that many contacts that see your feed when you do post.
I have 2 fb accts that I don't use any more..ever. Both are maxed at 5000 (was an avid gamer). The only people that didn't say happy birthday to me are those that I actually know! Since I rarely post anything about myself, and don't go to my "actual" friend's walls, they forget I'm there.
I rarely wish people a happy birthday on Facebook. I'm not on it that often. I have other things to do. If we're really good friends or close family, then I'd make a phone call.
It's Facebook....get over it! Come back to the real world.
Do you have your birthday listed on FB? I only really remember birthdays of most people (aside from my immediate family and a few close, lifelong friends) because Facebook alerts me. Several friends do not have their birthday listed on Facebook, so no alert, no happy birthday.
Also, if I knew you were JW, unless you told me otherwise, I would ignore your birthday out of respect for your beliefs. If people know you were raised JW, they might not wish you a happy birthday unless you have explicitly told them otherwise.
Do you have on your FB where you were raised a JW? Did you go on the two year mission if so is that on your FB? That could be one of the reasons for no HB wishes. Of your 100+ friends are they JWs? Many people are aware of the JWs not celebrating Christmas, birthdays or holidays.
Don't depend on FB or other social media sites to socialize. Get out, work through your social anxiety. It will take time to overcome but you are young and can do this. Join or volunteer with local groups and start socializing with real people. It should help you overcome your anxiety.
Simply remove your date of birth from your page. People see it on there timeline and instinctively respond....hoping you will reciprocate on their birthday. Having a ton of people flooding your timeline wishing you HBD on FB means a lot to many of my shallow fake FB friends.
Congratulations on being born. Every other member of the human race has managed it. I pay no attention to birthdays, and many people feel the same way. I do, however, congratulate people for accomplishing things, the more important the better. When someone I know graduates from college, passes the bar, their LPE exam or Med School, it's huge, and warrants a card and flowers! However, I draw the line at cake. I don't like cake.
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