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You seem to assume it's an honor for the grandparents to watch your children, unpaid, I might add.
Your mom's hints add up to this: she's over it, and rightly so. Change your attitude about "outsiders" (whatever that means) and hire a sitter; yes, for pay.
Yes, I have, and grandpa is no longer watching them much anymore. I think a lot of grandparents like the ideal of it, but in reality, they tend to be tired with the whole kid-responsibility thing and it isn't what they envisioned. My FIL was 70 so he was just not capable physically of doing it (our boys are 1 and 3). That's fine, sometimes things change.
You might like the money and the schedule, but obviously it isn't going to work out. If you can't afford private care (isn't there after school care available?) then you might have to consider a full-time job in order to afford it.
She is probably "guilting you" because she realizes that she made a promise she can't keep, and doesn't want to ********* over for no childcare, but wants you to find an alternative. She's stuck in a hard place too.
You seem to assume it's an honor for the grandparents to watch your children, unpaid, I might add.
Your mom's hints add up to this: she's over it, and rightly so. Change your attitude about "outsiders" (whatever that means) and hire a sitter; yes, for pay.
Thank you for a nice response. I also think they liked the "idea" of it. Reality has set in and they are too proud to say so. My oldest does not qualify for before and after school care, she is too old for the care offered in my area but my son does qualify. I will check into it.
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Originally Posted by aliss2
Yes, I have, and grandpa is no longer watching them much anymore. I think a lot of grandparents like the ideal of it, but in reality, they tend to be tired with the whole kid-responsibility thing and it isn't what they envisioned. My FIL was 70 so he was just not capable physically of doing it (our boys are 1 and 3). That's fine, sometimes things change.
You might like the money and the schedule, but obviously it isn't going to work out. If you can't afford private care (isn't there after school care available?) then you might have to consider a full-time job in order to afford it.
She is probably "guilting you" because she realizes that she made a promise she can't keep, and doesn't want to ********* over for no childcare, but wants you to find an alternative. She's stuck in a hard place too.
The trolls are alive and well, I see. Very brash considering I stated how much I love my parents and how it is a long standing family tradition that nobody hires sitters.
LOL at "trolls"....
Loving your parents has nothing to do with anything. And neither does "long standing tradition"
Your parents clearly are tired of watching your children. Your in-laws are not conveniently located and have other things that need to be the primary focus in their lives.
You asked a question and I answered it. Your children. YOURS. So yes, if your free childcare is not working out any longer, you need to seek alternatives. I don't know what else to say. If you were looking for someone to say that your parents are being selfish meanies and should suck it up and continue to watch your kids for free until you decide otherwise, well - you asked the wrong person.
Yes, I have, and grandpa is no longer watching them much anymore. I think a lot of grandparents like the ideal of it, but in reality, they tend to be tired with the whole kid-responsibility thing and it isn't what they envisioned. My FIL was 70 so he was just not capable physically of doing it (our boys are 1 and 3). That's fine, sometimes things change.
You might like the money and the schedule, but obviously it isn't going to work out. If you can't afford private care (isn't there after school care available?) then you might have to consider a full-time job in order to afford it.
She is probably "guilting you" because she realizes that she made a promise she can't keep, and doesn't want to ********* over for no childcare, but wants you to find an alternative. She's stuck in a hard place too.
Perhaps there is a problem with your understanding of the term "troll."
A troll is not someone who doesn't give you the answer you want or validate your self absorption.
You are being selfish. Your parents are tired, or at least tired of providing constant free childcare for you. Take responsibility for your own life and your own children and make other arrangements. One suspects that the "longstanding tradition" aspect is only being emphasized in an effort to validate your selfishness. It means nothing. This is not about what you want or your convenience or whether you like your job or anything else related to you. It's about abusing your parents' goodwill and monopolizing their lives and their time. They have a right to live the life they want without the burden of raising your children, which is clearly not the great joy to them that you think it should be. The changes need to come from you, not your parents.
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No, I didn't.
