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Lose my temper, that is.
I was out somewhere and guess who I run into after all these months? The crazy widowed ex-friend! (Many here know who I mean). Now, I'm in a steady relationship, as is she. But goes on to say, "Now that you're with her (my S/O) you've all but ignored us!" I'm thinking, "Who the hell is 'us'?" I guess meaning her and her hangout people. I hadn't spoken to or even heard from her in months. So I lost it and said, "You know, I realized who are my real friends I can count on and the ones who spew Moderator cut: bleep but won't be there....Where the Moderator cut: bleep were YOU when I was hospitalized? Or when I was in therapy? Or when times were questionable? Take your goddamn fake-ass friendship and go to hell!"
This may not be relevant, but I retired from my job four months ago and have moved on, from both a professional and personal standpoint. I've had a small health issue (nothing too serious, thankfully), but I saw who rallied around me during that difficult time - and I don't remember this person being one of them!
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by zentropa
LOL. You felt it necessary to blast someone for an innocent comment meant to let you know she missed your company. Therapy doesn't seem to be working.
Lashing out... Bet your girlfriend loves that aspect of your relationship.
He was lashing out at someone who couldn’t be bothered to check in on him while he was having a life challenge who tried to come back like nothing happened. I completely understand why the OP curved her.
He was lashing out at someone who couldn’t be bothered to check in on him while he was having a life challenge who tried to come back like nothing happened. I completely understand why the OP curved her.
This sums it up tidily.
Congrats on moving into a new stage of life, OP. I hope you're enjoying all aspects of your "moving on".
OP, I understand why you lost your temper at that girl. What I don't understand is why you feel a need to boast here about what you said to her and how you said it. Are you looking for an attaboy commendation and a pat on the back for losing your temper and for having a gutter mouth? I don't think either one of those traits is commendable.
Thinking further on this, it occurs to me, that if you harbor some resentment toward your former friend, it might be best to air your grievances more calmly, to clear the air. "I'm sorry I blew up at you, X, but I was really disappointed when you didn't show any support for me in Y and Z situations, as I thought we were still friends at the time."
Whatever. Now I'm curious as to how she responded. Those were fair questions, though you might have overwhelmed her with your angry tone.
Rick, you knew what she may have needed. That would make you both happy, and you would not lash out, but would regret your unfaithfulness to you S/O. Devil does it, makes us do things. Your venting is normal, and your anger will diminish. Hope your health keeps at check.
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