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Old 04-11-2014, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who wrote back, for everyone's helpful feedback and thoughts.



Where I work at and for almost 10 years now, whenever someone left or went somewhere else, mgmt. would not fill the vacancies, and everyone who was still there ended up being assigned all of their responsibilities. So work that used to be done in the past by 2, 3, 4, 5, or more people are now being done by say or 1 or 2 people max...most of the time even just 1 now. As a result and since there is just not enough total time to get everything done in, I usually work long very hours in the office every week, even many times every day of every week
I sympathize with you. My SO went through that, working the job of 3 people, with no extra compensation either via wage increase, being paid overtime or time in lieu. After a while it became frustrating not only for him but for me too because he wasn't compensated and it was cutting into our lives. His that the bosses didn't notice (or care) that he worked so many hours. By working an extra 4 hours a day, he was mostly accomplishing the work that needed to be done so it didn't demonstrate a need to hire anyone else. But it took a serious mental toll and also interfered with his personal life. Be careful, you may be on the road to burnout if you try to do it all.
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Connecticut
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If my friends can't understand that my job/career is a higher priority in my life than socializing, then they can hit bricks. I don't need 'em.
AMEN!! @ Apex! That's what my daddy would say!!
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:17 PM
 
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Where I work at and for almost 10 years now, whenever someone left or went somewhere else, mgmt. would not fill the vacancies, and everyone who was still there ended up being assigned all of their responsibilities. So work that used to be done in the past by 2, 3, 4, 5, or more people are now being done by say or 1 or 2 people max...most of the time even just 1 now. As a result and since there is just not enough total time to get everything done in, I usually work long very hours in the office every week, even many times every day of every week
Then you are a doormat. What's stopping you from getting a new job? I can't imagine working someplace for 10 years where I work 60 hours and get paid for 40. That's just nuts. And it's not the norm, even in DC.
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Connecticut
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I sympathize with you. My SO went through that, working the job of 3 people, with no extra compensation either via wage increase, being paid overtime or time in lieu. After a while it became frustrating not only for him but for me too because he wasn't compensated and it was cutting into our lives. His that the bosses didn't notice (or care) that he worked so many hours. By working an extra 4 hours a day, he was mostly accomplishing the work that needed to be done so it didn't demonstrate a need to hire anyone else. But it took a serious mental toll and also interfered with his personal life. Be careful, you may be on the road to burnout if you try to do it all.
Did he quit for better compensated employment & recognition? Please say he did...
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:31 PM
 
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I think that's crappy of your friends. That being said are you being 100% effective at work? If so is there anyone you can speak to about your workload?
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:43 PM
 
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I sympathize with you. My SO went through that, working the job of 3 people, with no extra compensation either via wage increase, being paid overtime or time in lieu. After a while it became frustrating not only for him but for me too because he wasn't compensated and it was cutting into our lives. His that the bosses didn't notice (or care) that he worked so many hours. By working an extra 4 hours a day, he was mostly accomplishing the work that needed to be done so it didn't demonstrate a need to hire anyone else. But it took a serious mental toll and also interfered with his personal life. Be careful, you may be on the road to burnout if you try to do it all.
Thanks and thank you for sharing more about your SO's experience. I am also very sorry to hear that he had to go through those very unfortunate circumstances. Just curious, is this environment still what he is dealing with, or did his experience with this hopefully eventually result in a a happy resolution, for both him and his employer? Or was he able to find more favorable conditions working elsewhere, for a different employer?

Thx again for sharing the very interesting info.

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Old 04-11-2014, 02:51 PM
 
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I work CRAZY hours, and I have a lot of people in my life. My friends all know this, and they know why I accept those crazy hours. I keep them informed as much as I can as to what my schedule is and when I'm free. I make sure to reach out when I have time. I haven't lost any friends I didn't want to lose.
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:53 PM
 
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Then you are a doormat. What's stopping you from getting a new job? I can't imagine working someplace for 10 years where I work 60 hours and get paid for 40. That's just nuts. And it's not the norm, even in DC.
I didn't just take it sitting down of course, I eventually did push back, through the appropriate and correct channels. That attempt backfired, because instead of either moderating the workload so that it could be completed in more 40-hour weeks or hiring someone new to help, for a time they did not allow me to work any extra hours at all, while keeping my workload the same and again not hiring anyone else to help. When they realized that their revised expectations were not achievable and were impossible, they later permitted me to work extra hours, again. So it was essentially right back to square one.

Also, I was technically compensated, for the extra hours that I put in. I did look into other possible positions as well, but the ones I researched and looked into and/or interviewed for were even worse, not better. There are other reasons I have for staying here as well, but if a person can't get another job with more favorable conditions than the one s/he is already in, what incentive is there to switch to begin with?
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Old 04-11-2014, 03:00 PM
 
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I think that's crappy of your friends. That being said are you being 100% effective at work? If so is there anyone you can speak to about your workload?
I always put my whole heart into my work. Years ago, we used to have a team of what I am doing now, by myself, of 4-5 people. As people left or moved on to other jobs, that number went down, to 3, then 2, then 1. I have advocated for bringing new people on to the team for years now of course, but my repeated requests did not change the outcome.
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Old 04-11-2014, 03:12 PM
 
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I didn't just take it sitting down of course, I eventually did push back, through the appropriate and correct channels. That attempt backfired, because instead of either moderating the workload so that it could be completed in more 40-hour weeks or hiring someone new to help, for a time they did not allow me to work any extra hours at all, while keeping my workload the same and again not hiring anyone else to help. When they realized that their revised expectations were not achievable and were impossible, they later permitted me to work extra hours, again. So it was essentially right back to square one.

Also, I was technically compensated, for the extra hours that I put in. I did look into other possible positions as well, but the ones I researched and looked into and/or interviewed for were even worse, not better. There are other reasons I have for staying here as well, but if a person can't get another job with more favorable conditions than the one s/he is already in, what incentive is there to switch to begin with?
Seriously? You "looked into it"? I don't think so. I worked in DC for years and know dozens and dozens of people in high level government and association jobs, and not one of them has been giving their labour away for free for a decade. What makes them different from you?
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