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If she had used her actual name, then I'd say to send an email through Facebook and say something like, "Long time no see! How are you?" or something casual like that. But she didn't use her real name, and therefore, it would be a little weird for you to contact her. After all, there's no way you casually found her, since she'll know you had to go through various channels to find her. Until she changes her name on Facebook, leave her alone.
well-said, I guess you're right- there's just no way to say hello to her and appear casual about it under present circumstances, damn.
However I was pleased to see her face again and I must say, she who was in those days a redhaired hot fox in her late teens, is now a redhaired hot fox of a woman in her late 30s
I can't believe so many of you think its creepy. I have reconnected with former neighbors and high school friends on Facebook. Otherwise there would be no way to connect. We all just catch up with how everyone's kids are doing and leave it at that.
What makes a difference for me is that he said, "It proved difficult because it turned out she didn't use her real last name on f.b. , I looked up her dad's name which I remembered, followed a few paths, and with sheer luck really, I found her."
He didn't say that she no longer had her maiden name, or that she had a new married name, or whatever. He said she didn't use "her real" last name on FB. To me that implies she doesn't want to be randomly found. It took a lot of digging and "sheer luck" for him to locate her under the fake name. I would respect that obvious desire not to be found except by those she chooses to let in.
There is just the one possible way I may be able to sneak in a hello to her, but this would be pushing it...
When I searched for her dad, it led me to her brother. On this brother's f.b. is where I found her. Conceivably I could pretend I'd not seen her on his page, and send him a message loosely as such:
I'm looking for an old girlfriend of mine and I think you could possibly be related to her, if you are, could you pass along a hello to her for me, im 'kirk' she'll remember me, thanks.
This itself though would be strange in it's own way, I reckon. I reckon I'd better let this one go
There is just the one possible way I may be able to sneak in a hello to her, but this would be pushing it...
When I searched for her dad, it led me to her brother. On this brother's f.b. is where I found her. Conceivably I could pretend I'd not seen her on his page, and send him a message loosely as such:
I'm looking for an old girlfriend of mine and I think you could possibly be related to her, if you are, could you pass along a hello to her for me, im 'kirk' she'll remember me, thanks.
This itself though would be strange in it's own way, I reckon. I reckon I'd better let this one go
Not everyone from the past. Some you want to forget about. Some want to forget about you.
Very true, but there's no way to know that until contact has been made.
I've never used FB, but I keep hearing these stories about how people barely talked to each other in high school but have become best friends at age 50 thanks to FB. Someone had to make the initial contact for that to happen.
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