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Old 05-05-2014, 02:57 AM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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They have a form of self-hate. I'm sorta like that, hypocritically speaking.

But then again, it's just personal taste and we know people can get offended by it.
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Old 05-05-2014, 07:43 AM
 
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To the OP: Because people are hypocrites.
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Old 05-05-2014, 08:04 AM
 
Location: northwest Illinois
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We all care about looks to some degree, don't lie.


Why do we hate shallow people, when most people are shallow?
Don't assume we are YOU. speak for yourself!
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Old 05-05-2014, 08:22 AM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA
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I like my men shallow and superficial...they are so easy and predictable and so
uncomplicated...similar to my golden retriever mix.
Give em a remote, a sandwich, a beer and tell them they are THE best...and
off I go to do my profoundly deep things.
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Old 05-05-2014, 08:40 AM
 
Location: northwest Illinois
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I like my men shallow and superficial...they are so easy and predictable and so
uncomplicated...similar to my golden retriever mix.
Give em a remote, a sandwich, a beer and tell them they are THE best...and
off I go to do my profoundly deep things.
Boy, it's a good thing you didn't hook up with a multifaceted man with a degree in something. Because then you'd simply be divorced.
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Old 05-05-2014, 01:33 PM
 
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I didn't read the thread, just the OP, but here is my answer:

There is not just "shallow" or "not shallow." Instead, there is a wide range of "reasonableness." I certainly do not believe everyone is "shallow."

For example, you could consider me "shallow" if I didn't like someone based on the color shoes they wear, or by the car they drive. Most people do not dismiss others so easily as by dislike of their shoe color, or the way they pronounce a certain word.

WHY would you want to be around people who like or dislike you based on such trivial and undefining things?

On the other hand, someone who cares about you on a deeper level, say, your general ideas, beliefs, goals, and dreams... is not so "shallow."
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Old 05-05-2014, 03:45 PM
 
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We all care about looks to some degree, don't lie.


Why do we hate shallow people, when most people are shallow?
Most of us like to be around people who practice good hygiene, does that make us shallow?
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Old 05-05-2014, 04:49 PM
 
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Thats a bit ridiculous since a normal level of "shallow" is caring about your partner's physical appearance and finding them sexually desirable. The bad kind of shallow is being like Justin Bieber or Paris Hilton and only caring about money, looks and being fashionable. Thats being more a bad person/
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Old 05-06-2014, 02:00 AM
 
Location: London
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Shallow? This means superficial in a relationship sense. I know people, mainly women, who care only of superficial material matters in a relationship. Anything deeper is beyond them.

You can care about your appearance and not be superficial.

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Old 05-06-2014, 02:22 PM
 
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I think everyone pretty much covered it. Caring about looks isn't what makes a person shallow.

There are some things that are more superficial than others on a scale of substance, though. It's an intuitive scale we don't really need to put to words unless we choose to argue it.

Generally, we have an understanding (or gut feeling or little voice in the back of our heads) that superficial things are those things that are very fleeting, hold little meaning in the sense that they say very little about who someone is at his core or about his value systems or about the relationships he's capable of having.

And they're things that, perhaps, don't contribute as much to the emotional and psychological stability, depth, and strength of relationships and interactions at large or to the progress of a society and mankind as a whole.

Because of this understanding/gut feeling/little voice, which is undoubtedly stronger in some than others, things like looks naturally tend to be closer to the "shallow" end of the substance scale while things like honesty, for example, tend to be closer to the "deep" end.

One can claim a person is shallow, then, simply because that person places a lot of stock in the things that fall on the shallow end of the substance scale while not caring much or at all about the rest. Everything for them being about popularity, looks, money and the like, scoffing at things like intelligence, maturity, and compassion.

Is there anything wrong with being shallow? No - but that's only because there are enough people who aren't to keep things moving forward. If everyone was, in fact, shallow, society would be in an even sadder state than it is, an opinion I'm not interested in debating.
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