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Old 04-15-2014, 07:36 PM
 
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We all care about looks to some degree, don't lie.


Why do we hate shallow people, when most people are shallow?
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:43 PM
 
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Caring about looks to some degree does not make a person shallow. If the ONLY thing you care about is looks or money or something like that - then that would be shallow. But simply caring about looks does not make someone shallow - in my opinion.
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:46 PM
 
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Some people like to look presentable.
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:46 PM
 
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Caring about looks to some degree does not make a person shallow. If the ONLY thing you care about is looks or money or something like that - then that would be shallow. But simply caring about looks does not make someone shallow - in my opinion.
Why is it bad again?
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:47 PM
 
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Interesting philosophy.

However, I disagree. Like Dewdrop says, some people take it too far and let it dictate how they choose their partner in EVERY WAY possible. That is the definition of shallow in my personal opinion. Caring about how a person a little is part of how attraction works.

I don't really hate shallow people, if that is what they want to be, then it's fine with me. I just wouldn't be with a person who only cares about how I look or what I have. I am quite sure their lives would be a lot less enriched, then again if that choose to be that way, then maybe not. Depends entirely on the person.
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:48 PM
 
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What makes looking for someone intelligent any less shallow?

It has nothing to do with being shallow, people just like to judge
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:50 PM
 
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Caring about looks and ruling people out for superficial reasons...not the same things.

I like certain physical traits, but they've never served as weed out tools...the presence of them were merely bonus.
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Old 04-15-2014, 07:59 PM
 
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We all care about looks to some degree, don't lie.


Why do we hate shallow people, when most people are shallow?
It isn't shallow to care about looks. But it is shallow to care about looks to the near-total exclusion of all other factors. Maybe most young people are shallow. But after they've gained a little life experience, most people realize beauty isn't worth as much as they once thought.
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Old 04-15-2014, 08:08 PM
 
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Why is it bad again?
It's not bad or good - it is what it is. I choose not to surround myself with shallow people. It's a choice I make. But I don't hate people because they are shallow.
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Old 04-15-2014, 08:10 PM
 
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I don't hate shallow people. I may not respect, or want to hang out with those that are shallow by *my* standards.

Shallow usually denotes those that are concerned with the superficial. It's like an iceberg, what you see is the superficial, but all of the important stuff is much deeper.
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