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Old 04-18-2014, 05:24 PM
 
Location: Venus
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Last year's Mother's Day was the worse for me. I had lost my mother on April 20th (coming up on the 1st anniversary. ) It was the first Mother's Day without her and the fact that I only lost her about 3 weeks prior just made it so hard. I don't have any kids of my of own but I have one step-daughter who always calls me-so that helped. I'm not too sure how I will feel this year. Hopefully, it will be better.



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Old 04-18-2014, 05:54 PM
 
Location: DC area
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I dread it as much because of societal pressures as anything else. Mother's Day is one of those times of the year when you're expected to play nice. Even if your relationship is crap and you'd talk to random strangers than your mother...the facade remains. A card is almost obligatory; so is some gift or another. But if you can't bring yourself to buy one of the treacly ones, you may be searching for a card you can live with for an hour or more. And if, god forbid, you decide you're not going to engage in the holiday at all and say as much to others, you will get the look - the one that says you're one of the worst human beings ever.

So...yeah, I dread the day. No, I don't have a good relationship with my mother and I'm okay with that. Society, not so much.
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Old 04-18-2014, 05:57 PM
 
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Old 04-18-2014, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Baltimore
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As far as the original post and the words regarding her mother who made it clear that she was doing all FIVE of them a favor by raising them ~ News Bulletin: She was! You wouldn't be alive on this Earth and neither would your siblings or your children for that matter were it not for your Mother, who gave you life. If you had lived her life and had FIVE children to raise, who knows what you would have done. Maybe she did and gave tremendously more for all of you than was done for her. Maybe she is a....what's the word....human. Humans are not perfect. Maybe she did the best she could. Did she feed all of you? Change all your diapers? Take care of you when you were sick? Devote the best years of her life to raising ALL of you? Remember, you would not even be alive, and therefore your children would not be alive, were it not for your Mother. Children are not discovered in the cabbage patch. The act of giving birth for most women is nothing short of agony, and many women have died in the process. She did not have to put any of you on the Earth and could have spent all the money invested in you and your siblings on herself, enjoyed the best years of her life not raising children who grow up ungrateful, judging her as a Mother, and expressing what a bother it is to see her on Mother's Day. OMG. She's ninety years old. When you mature a little bit, you are going to appreciate all she did for you and when she is gone, it's too late to say "Thank you".
Do you have a nice view from up their on your cross?
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Old 04-18-2014, 06:03 PM
 
Location: Spokane, WA
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I wish we could have maybe 27-30% of the gusto for Father's Day that we have for Mother's Day. Maybe even 9-12% perhaps?
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Old 04-18-2014, 06:20 PM
 
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I dread it because my kids are so mean.

It's just another day.

They live with the deadbeat who DOES NOT think it's important they honor their mother, that day or any other. In fact he'd be happy if there was a Burn the Mother Day.
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Old 04-18-2014, 08:29 PM
 
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Through this discussion, I was curious about the history of Mothers Day. Here it is - interesting enough
the modern founder of Mothers Day, Anna Jarvis campaigned against it.


Motherís Day - Holidays - HISTORY.com
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Old 04-18-2014, 08:42 PM
 
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I think Mother's Day is primarily for mothers with young children or children still in college, who depend on their parents. It's nice to send a card to your elderly mom or call her, but really the day should be for the one's who are sacrificing daily.
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Old 04-18-2014, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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As far as the original post and the words regarding her mother who made it clear that she was doing all FIVE of them a favor by raising them ~ News Bulletin: She was! You wouldn't be alive on this Earth and neither would your siblings or your children for that matter were it not for your Mother, who gave you life. If you had lived her life and had FIVE children to raise, who knows what you would have done. Maybe she did and gave tremendously more for all of you than was done for her. Maybe she is a....what's the word....human. Humans are not perfect. Maybe she did the best she could. Did she feed all of you? Change all your diapers? Take care of you when you were sick? Devote the best years of her life to raising ALL of you? Remember, you would not even be alive, and therefore your children would not be alive, were it not for your Mother. Children are not discovered in the cabbage patch. The act of giving birth for most women is nothing short of agony, and many women have died in the process. She did not have to put any of you on the Earth and could have spent all the money invested in you and your siblings on herself, enjoyed the best years of her life not raising children who grow up ungrateful, judging her as a Mother, and expressing what a bother it is to see her on Mother's Day. OMG. She's ninety years old. When you mature a little bit, you are going to appreciate all she did for you and when she is gone, it's too late to say "Thank you".
I totally and completely disagree with you. No child chooses to be born. To have a mother who lets you know she's doing you a favor by raising you damages a child's soul forever. It's horrible.

Me thinks you must be a mom like the OP's mom who thinks it should be all about you for the 'sacrifices' you made. Being a mother is an honor and a privilege, there is no sacrifice involved. Your children did ask to be born. You were blessed to have them. You CHOSE to give up a part of your fun, and single life, to devote yourself to raising children. Any mother who doesn't realize that and treats her kids like she's doing THEM a favor deserves to be left alone just as she left her children emotionally alone when they needed her the most.

I would advise the OP to send her mother a card, or if her guilt will allow her, ignore the old' bitty completely. She doesn't deserve to be 'honored' for being mother since she never honored her children.
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Old 04-18-2014, 09:38 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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I wish we could have maybe 27-30% of the gusto for Father's Day that we have for Mother's Day. Maybe even 9-12% perhaps?
Don't you remember the 1970's when the liberals and feminists taught that Dads don't matter, and kids don't need fathers? Unfortunately many people believed them and it's now 2 generations of children who have suffered as a result.
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