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My sister in law made a snarky comment to my mother on FB. My mother will not stand up for herself...but it really is HER business on how she deals with it. My brother and his wife and his children, really, do not have much to do with my mother, but when they do it's always some snarkey comment or opinion. I really want to put a stop to this...
My sister in law made a snarky comment to my mother on FB. My mother will not stand up for herself...but it really is HER business on how she deals with it. My brother and his wife and his children, really, do not have much to do with my mother, but when they do it's always some snarkey comment or opinion. I really want to put a stop to this...
I just wish, she would stand up for herself, but I should be satisfied about MY relationship with her, AND the relationship my teen and young adult child have with her. Focus on the positive.
If it's a pattern, you can show your mother how to hide the SIL's posts so she won't be subjected to her comments. Or, she can change her settings so the SIL doesn't see what she posts.
If it's a pattern, you can show your mother how to hide the SIL's posts so she won't be subjected to her comments. Or, she can change her settings so the SIL doesn't see what she posts.
Yep. If it bothers your mom, show her how to unfollow people and hide them in her feed. If the SIL is making snide comments on your mom's page, show your mom how to exclude your SIL from seeing the things your mom writes. If it's really bad, show your mom how to use the Restricted list. It won't unfriend your SIL, but your SIL will not see status updates, etc.
But go with manually excluding the SIL from what your mom writes, first, just to avoid drama. You could make a list of your SIL and her family, and your mom can make everyone but that list her default for status updates, etc. Then she can occasionally throw your SIL a bone by allowing her to see a cute picture of an animal or a funny news story or something now and then, so she doesn't suspect she has been excluded.
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Somewhere I do not *see* where immaturity has anything to do
with being concerned about not standing up against snarky remarks.
On the other hand if anybody *thinks* they are immature, they probably are ?
In my book:
The OP is a kind hearted person, and the one making the snarky remarks is immature !
The *victim* either *really does not care*, or says
*Oh well, I forgive her*. It takes a person with a big heart to do this!!!
Somewhere I do not *see* where immaturity has anything to do
with being concerned about not standing up against snarky remarks.
On the other hand if anybody *thinks* they are immature, they probably are ?
In my book:
The OP is a kind hearted person, and the one making the snarky remarks is immature !
The *victim* either *really does not care*, or says
*Oh well, I forgive her*. It takes a person with a big heart to do this!!!
Yep. If it bothers your mom, show her how to unfollow people and hide them in her feed. If the SIL is making snide comments on your mom's page, show your mom how to exclude your SIL from seeing the things your mom writes. If it's really bad, show your mom how to use the Restricted list. It won't unfriend your SIL, but your SIL will not see status updates, etc.
But go with manually excluding the SIL from what your mom writes, first, just to avoid drama. You could make a list of your SIL and her family, and your mom can make everyone but that list her default for status updates, etc. Then she can occasionally throw your SIL a bone by allowing her to see a cute picture of an animal or a funny news story or something now and then, so she doesn't suspect she has been excluded.
as for facebook, you might casually mention that she can 'unfriend' someone. She probably won't. You could also say something to your brother.
Or you could stay out of it.
It is better to stay out of it, to be frank, my brother is pretty much well...he tries not to butt heads with his wife. They have three boys together etc. etc. I stay away from them. I hate to be like that but they have this tendency to belittle my mom...
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I may inform her of that option.
