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I would bide my time for awhile and see if the friendship picks pack up. if not maybe call and ask if she wants to go to lunch if she makes up a reason why she can't you really know she is not interested anymore. I would be careful about questioning someone as to why they don't want to be so close anymore. they don't really want to tell you or they would of by now. if they do feel forced to tell you, it might not be something you want to hear.
Some people don't have the courage to just come out with it. Instead, they leave people wondering just what happened. I, for one, would want to know if there was a problem.
It could be any number of things. Do you two share mutual friends, are you doing better than her and maybe a little jealousy is at play, do you get more attention from the guys when you go out, did put any of her personal business out there. Sounds like you really want to continue the friendship, so I would give it my best effort to find out what is going on. I think you should just cut through the chase and ask her. But if you are 100% sure you didn't do anything for her to act this way with you, then you should start thinking about life without her in it. Everybody we call our friend is sometime not our friend, your enemies can also come disguised as a friend. I don't believe a true friend would put you through that for no reason. Nip it in the bud and move on with your life.
The problem is millenials label everyone that pays attention to them for more than 2 days as a best friend.
Sorry....just because you shared a latte together doesn't make her your bestest friend in the whole wild world.
Your devastating takedown of millennials is one I will remember forever, as much for the fact that you said it to a 44-year-old as for its elegant wit.
Some people don't have the courage to just come out with it. Instead, they leave people wondering just what happened. I, for one, would want to know if there was a problem.
I would want to know as well. however the shoe has been on the other foot and I did not want to tell my friend the long list of things that had added up for me, that made me want to distance myself. telling her would of done nothing to change the situation it would of just hurt her feelings. nor was it anything she could really change.
Are you in a serious relationship and hers is failing?
Have you lost weight recently?
Are you talking to new people?
Women ( I don't know if men do it too) tend to harbor a lot of jealousy. As long as you two are on the same level it is fine. Your advancement in life may make her feel less than.
That has been my experience but it is not always the case. If you love her, which I'm assuming you do, then you owe it to yourself and her to get to the bottom of things.
Definitely trust your instincts. I know 100% more by having a conversation and looking someone in the eyes.
That is where the instinct serves you.
Ask questions casually and read your friend. Face to face.
All right, lets say we've been close friends for 5 years then. She refers to me as her best friend. Or at least she always used to introduce me to people that way.
Any suggestions on how to respond to this situation? Should I just stop reaching out or ask once again what's wrong?
Thanks!
I used to have a childhood friend... we were buddies, thick as thieves. Then one day that door was shut... and I never found out why she turned. She'd talk to everyone else (mutual friends), but me, no response to texts, emails and even letters. I kept asking to meet up, for denied because she was "too busy" (but not anyone else). Finally I asked what's going on... she completely denied that anything was going on. I knew it was done. It's a painful experience and takes awhile to get over.
Give her one more chance, OP. Then move on with your life... she may come back, or not.
Well i think she's bearing some pressures which is her own problem and she hope to digest on her own. Coz i've been there before, just dont know how to tell friends, then gradually trapped in like autism. If u really cherish your friendship and really wanna get close to her mind, just try to make her feel that u'll be always by her side no matter what happens. The day she feels that u r trustworthy enough, she'll tell u naturally. Good luck with both u and her. ^^
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