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Old 05-01-2014, 06:50 AM
 
Location: U.S.A., Earth
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I was never the type of person to invite others out for food or to play video games. Shy, and my places of residency were never really that ****-and-span with lots of hardware. I've been using social sites like Meetup instead. While the people I've met are fantastic, that's pretty much the only time I converse with them. I've fallen out with a lot of the closer friends, and I don't really have anybody to talk with about more serious subjects like work, relationships, mortgages, etc. Anybody else in the same situation? Would something like just emailing someone outside of some of those social sites (like Meetup and Facebook) no more than once a week change that?
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Old 05-01-2014, 08:30 AM
 
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If you want serious friends, I would suggest you think of more serious activities besides playing video games with them.
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Old 05-01-2014, 09:17 AM
 
Location: Squirrel Hill PA
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Pick a hobby that means that you have to actually leave the house and go do something with other people.
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Old 05-01-2014, 09:35 AM
 
Location: U.S.A., Earth
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If you want serious friends, I would suggest you think of more serious activities besides playing video games with them.
what do you suggest, scrap-booking?

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Pick a hobby that means that you have to actually leave the house and go do something with other people.
I've done hiking and bar crawls. Same results
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Old 05-01-2014, 09:39 AM
 
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How about quilting?

Obviously you never developed many interests in life
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Old 05-01-2014, 10:11 AM
 
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I was never the type of person to invite others out for food or to play video games. Shy, and my places of residency were never really that ****-and-span with lots of hardware. I've been using social sites like Meetup instead. While the people I've met are fantastic, that's pretty much the only time I converse with them. I've fallen out with a lot of the closer friends, and I don't really have anybody to talk with about more serious subjects like work, relationships, mortgages, etc. Anybody else in the same situation? Would something like just emailing someone outside of some of those social sites (like Meetup and Facebook) no more than once a week change that?
Find activities that are more "serious" in nature. Meetup has so many different groups and interests you should be able to find SOMETHING of a more serious nature.

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what do you suggest, scrap-booking?


I've done hiking and bar crawls. Same results
No need to be snarky. Bar crawls - um that would probbaly not attract more serious people , fun, but if you are looking for "serious" I would try other types of activities. Hiking could be a good prospect - but I would give it a month or two to get to know people. what about looking for book clubs, or things that are not revolving around drinking and gaming.
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Old 05-01-2014, 10:35 AM
 
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How about sports?
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Old 05-01-2014, 11:15 AM
 
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Game night groups
Dinner groups (ethnic restaurants, foodies, etc)
Sports Groups (hiking, mountain biking, road biking, rock climbing)
Board Games groups
Political Groups/Political Campaign volunteering
Religious groups
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Old 05-01-2014, 12:02 PM
 
Location: The Carolinas
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Go back to school. There, you stand a good chance of meeting like-minded people, many of whom may be close to your age.
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Old 05-01-2014, 01:27 PM
 
Location: NOT in the Land of lollipops & unicorns...I live in reality.
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Just my $0.02...but have you ever done any volunteering? I have found, throughout my life, that in stressful or lonely times I go and do some volunteering. I meet people there, of all ages, and likes/dislikes and some of them become long time friends. I am also helping others in need by doing the volunteering.
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