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Old 05-04-2014, 04:19 PM
 
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Yes! It's a troubling indication of how narcissistic our society has become. I first noticed it at an outdoor concert I went to probably about five years ago. People all around us seemed more interested in posing for the camera (and talking to each other) than they were in actually watching the show. It's a sad commentary on our society, but self-absorption seems to rule the day. The comments so far in this thread seem to prove that out, since people seem to be just fine with this kind of behavior.
Agreed, and just as alarming as the narcissism brought to light in the original post, is how everyone on the first page of this thread instantly jumped on the original poster for wondering why people are so increasingly narcissistic. As if what people do should not concern you or be brought up in discussion. Just go back to being a drone, right? Move along, nothing to worry about.

Yes, people have been swept up in an age of narcissism.

There has never been anything wrong with taking pictures of things, yourself, your group.
The problem now is that people are CONSTANTLY taking pictures of EVERYTHING -- but most of all, THEMSELVES -- and the mundane things they're doing. I find this incredibly irritating and disruptive, not only to me, but to the people who engage in this behavior. I also feel anyone who brings this up for discussion is completely in their rights to discuss the issue, without being told to "shut up and worry about yourself only."
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Old 05-04-2014, 04:21 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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No, there's a HUGE difference.

Back in the day of timers on cameras or photo booths, people were taking a photo of themselves or themselves with their family/friends to have as a souvenir of a date or a holiday or whatever.

Today? People constantly post or share "selfies" of themselves: At work, at a game, at lunch, at dinner, with their lunch or dinner, walking down the street, sitting on the subway, at a club, in a park, just waking up, getting ready to go to sleep, etc etc etc as if the world just must know their every move all day long.
You are sooooooo wrong about "why" folks take so many pictures today!

People didn't take photos of themselves pre-digital era because it was expensive to develop the photos! So we all had to pick and choose when we were willing to spend the $$$$ to memorialize the moment.

With everything digitized, no one has to spend $18 to develop film or slides . . . and they don't have to wait for a week or so to get them back, either!

It has everything to do with MONEY.

What is puzzling to me is why people think the only time a photo should be taken is for some RARE MOMENT in life. ????????

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Old 05-04-2014, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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To me, the people doing this are doing it because they want to be seen. It's a "hey, look at me!" thing. What got me was the screens didn't show the game - they only showed the owner's face.
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Old 05-04-2014, 04:40 PM
 
Location: 500 miles from home
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I love it when my kids post "selfies" of themselves and their families doing interesting things. It's a matter of personal opinion, I guess - personally I prefer photos of people I know doing fun things together than shots of strangers, doing just about ANYTHING. But hey, that's just me.
Me too! And when my friends' post their selfies.

It's harmless fun.
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Old 05-04-2014, 04:56 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Agreed, and just as alarming as the narcissism brought to light in the original post, is how everyone on the first page of this thread instantly jumped on the original poster for wondering why people are so increasingly narcissistic. As if what people do should not concern you or be brought up in discussion. Just go back to being a drone, right? Move along, nothing to worry about.

Yes, people have been swept up in an age of narcissism.

There has never been anything wrong with taking pictures of things, yourself, your group.
The problem now is that people are CONSTANTLY taking pictures of EVERYTHING -- but most of all, THEMSELVES -- and the mundane things they're doing. I find this incredibly irritating and disruptive, not only to me, but to the people who engage in this behavior. I also feel anyone who brings this up for discussion is completely in their rights to discuss the issue, without being told to "shut up and worry about yourself only."
I can't fathom how this has turned into some kind of weird discussion about narcissistic behavior. Taking pictures of one's self and sharing them with FRIENDS who are doing the SAME THING (sharing their photos) is "narcissistic"? Not hardly.

I think either you just don't know how to use the technology - or don't have any friends who care if you "share" a photo so you have decided to disparage anyone else who does, lololol.

If it were 1966 you would doubtless be the one complaining about the loud music - and asking why those disrespectful, self-centered narcissistic kids are fainting and screaming just because some mopheads from Liverpool are on TV.
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Old 05-04-2014, 05:02 PM
 
Location: northwest Illinois
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I was at the Pacers-Hawks playoff game this evening and noticed an inordinate amount of middle aged and even elderly people taking silly selfies or couplies. There was a point in the second quarter where it seemed more people around me were taking selfies than were watching the action on the court.

Are people so vain they need to see themselves all the time? It's not that they are photographing the game and being discourteous - they are the object of their own interests, and the stadium just serves as a backdrop. They don't even care about the basketball being played.

Do you find that people are becoming unusually selfish with all these selfies and couplies and not being focused at all on what's going on around them or photographing real events?
I've never done a "selfie" and probably never will since I don't allow my picture taken.
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Old 05-04-2014, 05:02 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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To me, the people doing this are doing it because they want to be seen. It's a "hey, look at me!" thing. What got me was the screens didn't show the game - they only showed the owner's face.
Well of course it "showed the owner's face." Why would anyone take photos of a game? Other than a professional photographer? People don't attend a game and focus on photography unless they do it for a living or are an amateur with thousands of dollars worth of telephoto lenses and a Nikon.
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Old 05-04-2014, 05:10 PM
 
Location: North Oakland
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I can't fathom how this has turned into some kind of weird discussion about narcissistic behavior. Taking pictures of one's self and sharing them with FRIENDS who are doing the SAME THING (sharing their photos) is "narcissistic"? Not hardly.

I think either you just don't know how to use the technology - or don't have any friends who care if you "share" a photo so you have decided to disparage anyone else who does, lololol.

If it were 1966 you would doubtless be the one complaining about the loud music - and asking why those disrespectful, self-centered narcissistic kids are fainting and screaming just because some mopheads from Liverpool are on TV.
We're not talking about "mopheads from Liverpool ... on TV." What's comparable with the OP's premise is people's taking pictures or videos of themselves instead of watching said mopheads at the mophead concert, for which all have paid a lot of money. Forgive me if I'm being too "gramps" for you, but I don't bother with concerts anymore because I don't feel like dealing with idiots making videos of concerts which 9 out of 10 of them will never watch anyway. Just listening to the music is no longer enough? And I'm supposed to pay today's big bucks to go to such an event? Nuh-uh.,

The Kinks (another "mophead" group, from Muswell Hill, in North London) said it best:

"People take pictures of each other
Just to prove that they really existed."

Probably not a textbook definition of narcissism, the lyric certainly speaks to the sense of "self uber alles" today's ubiquity of cameras implies.
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Old 05-04-2014, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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We're not talking about "mopheads from Liverpool ... on TV." What's comparable with the OP's premise is people's taking pictures or videos of themselves instead of watching said mopheads at the mophead concert, for which all have paid a lot of money. Forgive me if I'm being too "gramps" for you, but I don't bother with concerts anymore because I don't feel like dealing with idiots making videos of concerts which 9 out of 10 of them will never watch. Just listening to the music is no longer enough.

The Kinks (another "mophead" group, from Muswell Hill, in North London) said it best: "People took pictures of each other, just to prove that they really existed."
Good lord. For the 15-60 seconds that people usually take a selfie are they missing that much? I didn't miss a thing IMO when I posed for a selfie with some people I met last night at a concert for my favorite rapper. It was during a minute when they were changing songs. Selfies and being engaged in the "rage" are not mutually exclusive.
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Old 05-04-2014, 05:20 PM
 
Location: North Oakland
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Good lord. For the 15-60 seconds that people usually take a selfie are they missing that much? I didn't miss a thing IMO when I posed for a selfie with some people I met last night at a concert for my favorite rapper. It was during a minute when they were changing songs. Selfies and being engaged in the "rage" are not mutually exclusive.
You're so self-absorbed, it seems, you completely missed my point. I couldn't care less if you miss any of the show. I do not want to sit near you while you play with your toys, all of which give off glare and light and noise. And when you add up everyone's "15-60 seconds," it becomes quite a thing to deal with. Thanks, but no.
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