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If any of my friends couldnt get it through their heads that they dont need to call and ask permission or give a heads up about visiting id just tell them not to bother visiting anymore.
Now the one thing im seeing is that a lot of people on here have constantly busy lives and even taking time out to wipe the sweat off their brow causes schedule conflicts. Now if thats the case of your life fine but for those who just sit at home all day twiddling their thumbs staring at the walls then thats a different story.
Yes indeed.
Now the one person stated that you don't get to decide for people how they spend their time. That is true. However, you can easily make judgment calls, or a statement of opinion or such, that to you there is a difference in what you think of it, even as you acknowledge they are free to spend their time in whatever way they wish.
To wit: can you imagine a high-profile person such as the head coach of a major college or pro team, what it would be like if everyone in the world was over at their house all the time just showing up? Heck can you imagine their life without an unlisted phone number? The mad rush of visitors they would have, it would be to where they wouldn't hardly have a chance to pee.
But let's face it, most people don't live such a life, and even as their time is theirs to use as they please, let's be serious--they're not "all that." To me, for them to be so FIRM on the "call first" mantra, it's as if they do think they're "all that," when they're not. Even if you don't know every detail of their life, and in all likelihood you probably shouldn't, let's be real--what are the odds that the average Joe Plumber has that kind of life even remotely similar to such a high profile individual? Such everyday people can get PLENTY of time alone in solitude without even having to ask for or arrange for it. It's not that these people have to EXPLAIN or JUSTIFY their life, it's more that by virtue of common sense you pretty much all but KNOW all you need to know to form an opinion on what you think of it.
The real point I'm trying to make--it's not that someone is selfish etc or thinks they're "all that" when they REQUEST that they PREFER someone to let them know they're coming, it's when they're so HOSTILE to someone who doesn't practically schedule an appointment first, to the extent of deliberately not answering the door even when they see who it is and that it's not John Wayne Gacy. (I am assuming they're NOT in the middle of "enjoying" their spouse etc--a good reason for "Do Not Disturb" signs.)
Yes, answering the door is optional, so what, so are a lot of things that are not legally compulsory. It doesn't mean that you're not still somewhat self-centered and petty just the same.
I will not open the door for anyone who cannot show courtesy to call or text beforehand, knowing damn well I have a busy schedule and may not be in any condition to have company.
I'm 25 and I want 24 hours notice for visitors.
^^This. With cellphones and text messaging capabilities, unannounced drop-in visits are inexcusable. I am turning 40 this summer so I voted with the younger set on this poll. I prefer 24 hours notice but I will tolerate any advanced notice.
Now the one person stated that you don't get to decide for people how they spend their time. That is true. However, you can easily make judgment calls, or a statement of opinion or such, that to you there is a difference in what you think of it, even as you acknowledge they are free to spend their time in whatever way they wish.
To wit: can you imagine a high-profile person such as the head coach of a major college or pro team, what it would be like if everyone in the world was over at their house all the time just showing up? Heck can you imagine their life without an unlisted phone number? The mad rush of visitors they would have, it would be to where they wouldn't hardly have a chance to pee.
But let's face it, most people don't live such a life, and even as their time is theirs to use as they please, let's be serious--they're not "all that." To me, for them to be so FIRM on the "call first" mantra, it's as if they do think they're "all that," when they're not. Even if you don't know every detail of their life, and in all likelihood you probably shouldn't, let's be real--what are the odds that the average Joe Plumber has that kind of life even remotely similar to such a high profile individual? Such everyday people can get PLENTY of time alone in solitude without even having to ask for or arrange for it. It's not that these people have to EXPLAIN or JUSTIFY their life, it's more that by virtue of common sense you pretty much all but KNOW all you need to know to form an opinion on what you think of it.
The real point I'm trying to make--it's not that someone is selfish etc or thinks they're "all that" when they REQUEST that they PREFER someone to let them know they're coming, it's when they're so HOSTILE to someone who doesn't practically schedule an appointment first, to the extent of deliberately not answering the door even when they see who it is and that it's not John Wayne Gacy. (I am assuming they're NOT in the middle of "enjoying" their spouse etc--a good reason for "Do Not Disturb" signs.)
Yes, answering the door is optional, so what, so are a lot of things that are not legally compulsory. It doesn't mean that you're not still somewhat self-centered and petty just the same.
Who are you to decide who is "all that" and who is not? How do you know what the life of the average Joe is like? What is so difficult about respecting someone's preferences?
Who are you to decide who is "all that" and who is not? How do you know what the life of the average Joe is like? What is so difficult about respecting someone's preferences?
I dont think that its a case of deciding that someone is "all that" but rather imo a person seems to be more welcoming and/or hospitable if they allow visitors at any time. A house that is open is "warm" which is what id like my home to be.
I guess im just a believer in the "southern hospitality" thing.
I dont think that its a case of deciding that someone is "all that" but rather imo a person seems to be more welcoming and/or hospitable if they allow visitors at any time. A house that is open is "warm" which is what id like my home to be.
I guess im just a believer in the "southern hospitality" thing.
Does that include being gracious and hospitable during the surprise visit, and then cursing them once they're out of earshot?
I will call to find out if the person is at home but not to ask permission to visit. With gas prices the way they are i dont like to waste gas going to visit people that arent at home.
I will call to find out if the person is at home but not to ask permission to visit.
That doesn't make any sense to me. What do you say, "Are you home? I'm coming over"? Calling/texting someone and asking "hey, I'm in your neck of the woods this afternoon, is it okay if I stop by?" is the polite thing to do.
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. A very kind and selfless woman, wish she was still around 
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