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I don't care how you live your life, but your first paragraph proves that you are not able to look past your own feelings....who is the selfish one here.
I'm much older then you are and I said, when I was younger it didn't bother me, but I've changed now, I have MS, I need sleep, rest and down time....and I've been struggling for years to get people to stop calling and wanting to talk for hours, and to stop coming by on Sundays to give me some time to just lay around and rest. I'm divorced/single and live alone, therefore, I've grown selfish with my time, and I choose to work full time b/c I love working....
So, it isn't riciculous at all no matter what you think....this is me, my feelings and how I live my life and it is by all means not selfish and who in the world stops by for 10 minutes...that never happens dude.
when your 65 years old come back and tell me you still like it when people stop by unannounced. My son, my daughter in law, and grand daughter live far away, and when they come, I don't want company. When I have company visiting, I don't want anyone else coming around....I'm not a party chick any longer....sometimes people come by just to talk about personal things to unload or to vent that they wouldn't want anyone else to hear.....
so you chill, and be a little less aggressive at assuming everyone should think and feel like you do....and when you start paying my bills, you get to tell me to chill and that I'm wrong....for feeling the way I do.
Yes, indeed, my home, my rules....exactly! My sanctuary and safe place away from the rest of the world!!!
You young smart Alec whipper snapper....LOL (just kidding)
Oh and when I have dinner parties, everyone is invited.....
Seriously dude, think about it.
Okay this is how i read the "argument" between you two:
One person is saying "Yes i showed up without calling first but what were you doing? Absolutely nothing, so it isnt like i interrupted something vitally important"
The other person is saying "Youre right I wasnt doing anything THIS TIME. However I would like for you to get into the habit of calling ahead of time from now on just in case".
walking in on someone is the height of ignorance.... you dont know if that person is ill or tired.. just had an arguement with her hubby or in the middle of one.... its not nice and people should realize this... I had an aquaintance who use to bang on my door like a policeman looking for an arrest and thought it was quite funny when I answered the door all flustered, she d be standing there all smiles with her brat child who would pull my house apart and jump over furniture. things I would never allow my kids to do when young, in fact I never went visiting with them..I took them to the park ..This same person kept her own house beautiful and in order at all times.. She would also land in on me on a Saturday night, that was my night for my hubby and I to try and relax , but her hubby worked nights so she was at a lose end and would just walk in... then talk over the shows we were trying to watch on telly, a few times saying that another programme was on the other channel that her and her brat liked to watch on Saturday nights.... cheek wasnt the word. pure lack of any manners and I had to give her the cold shoulder so that it stopped...
Okay this goes back to what I said about the world being PC: You can demand a heads up or not but when people are being disrespectful in your home then you need to put your foot down and not care if they get offended.
I didn't vote, it's more none of the above. I don't like people inviting themselves over (which is how I view both a day or one hours notice - someone is just telling me they are inviting themselves over). I don't like any visitors that I haven't invited over.
I didn't vote, it's more none of the above. I don't like people inviting themselves over (which is how I view both a day or one hours notice - someone is just telling me they are inviting themselves over). I don't like any visitors that I haven't invited over.
Doesnt sound like youre a very perky person imo.
Last edited by pythonis; 05-15-2014 at 04:23 PM..
Reason: rephrased
I don't have much free time, and the precious bit that I have tends to be planned out. I hate it when someone shows up as a surprise visitor, and I'm unshowered, sweaty, and in the middle of housework.
Last weekend, for example, I was wearing old sweats and cleaning out my fridge/freezer. I looked horrible, and would not have been very happy if someone had decided to drop by and ring my doorbell for a surprise visit.
I probably wouldn't have answered the door.
I think my biggest problem about this thread is your making sweeping generalizations about people's character/morals/'generosity/etc based on their answer to this question.
And you're likely wrong about most if not all of them.
I think my biggest problem about this thread is your making sweeping generalizations about people's character/morals/'generosity/etc based on their answer to this question.
And you're likely wrong about most if not all of them.
I make sweeping generalizations about the entire world I live in so why would this little thread be exempt?
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