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Well this nutjob approached me again when I bumped into him outside of my apartment. I told him to f... off to return courtesy but he insists I should listen to him. He backed off and I don't feel bad. Somehow I felt satisfaction like justice was served.
Because it wasn't. The appropriate thing to do would be to hear him out and see if he has something worthwhile to say by way of apology for both his treatment of you and the homophobia behind it. Maybe he has grown to understand that judging people on the basis of their sexual orientation is wrong. A lot of people go through that in their early to mid-20s. Once they get out into the world, they come to realize that people are people, and that their previous biases were products of ignorance and something to be ashamed of. I certainly did.
Either way, the healthiest thing for you to do would be to forgive him, whether he apologizes or not. Do it for yourself, so you don't carry anger and hatred around in your own heart. Not saying you have to subject yourself to poor treatment or homophobia again, or be friends with the guy. But that you let go of your anger so that you can make room in your heart for love and joy. Life is better that way.
Because it wasn't. The appropriate thing to do would be to hear him out and see if he has something worthwhile to say by way of apology for both his treatment of you and the homophobia behind it. Maybe he has grown to understand that judging people on the basis of their sexual orientation is wrong. A lot of people go through that in their early to mid-20s. Once they get out into the world, they come to realize that people are people, and that their previous biases were products of ignorance and something to be ashamed of. I certainly did.
Either way, the healthiest thing for you to do would be to forgive him, whether he apologizes or not. Do it for yourself, so you don't carry anger and hatred around in your own heart. Not saying you have to subject yourself to poor treatment or homophobia again, or be friends with the guy. But that you let go of your anger so that you can make room in your heart for love and joy. Life is better that way.
Either way, I can't trust him. When it was "convenient" for him to forget about me rather than let patch up from my initiative he threatened me when I wanted only to talk. He even used his dad once to threaten me like 6 years old boy. Now it seems to me that he sees his "nightmare" or nuisance again he wants to end it peacefully. However, if he did that before learning we are neighbors I would have different approach to this as it would seem more genuine to me.
Then don't deal with him, if he approaches walk away, if he follows tell him to leave you alone.
Just because you live in the same area does not mean you have to spend time with him.
If you are not interested in patching things up now, then just ignore him. If he tries to insist, tell him that you want nothing to do with him and walk away.
If you are not interested in patching things up now, then just ignore him. If he tries to insist, tell him that you want nothing to do with him and walk away.
Time has come to turn the tables on and it is sweet
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