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Old 08-09-2014, 04:04 AM
 
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Many people just expect people to deal with it,but very few know how to deliver it. Your thoughts?
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Old 08-09-2014, 04:56 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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I do not take it well. It's a form of conflict which I do not like. I had an upbringing that was very negative and constantly critical so I've had more than my share of that.

I'm glad I currently have a job where there is none of that. I should add pointing out a mistake or making a suggestion is not the same. I'm talking more like outright hostility toward another human being.
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Old 08-09-2014, 05:47 AM
 
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I do not take it well. It's a form of conflict which I do not like. I had an upbringing that was very negative and constantly critical so I've had more than my share of that.

I'm glad I currently have a job where there is none of that. I should add pointing out a mistake or making a suggestion is not the same. I'm talking more like outright hostility toward another human being.

I don't take it well either.The form I faced the most is unsolicited criticism,it rubs me the wrong way.I don't mind someone pulling me to the side and in a loving matter rebuke me. That rarely happened though,the majority just open their mouths without any thought on what I thought.
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Old 08-09-2014, 05:49 AM
 
Location: Europe
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It depends how it goes. People need to learn to think things from other perspective. But if it is just picking for fights then I am against it.
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Old 08-09-2014, 08:20 AM
 
Location: The Emerald City
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Make it sound helpful instead of judgmental.
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Old 08-09-2014, 10:05 AM
 
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Many people just expect people to deal with it,but very few know how to deliver it. Your thoughts?
I think that people who see the worst in what you do have a tendency to criticize in a very negative way. They have no business doing it.
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Old 08-09-2014, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I had a supervisor at work who was awful at criticism. If something wasn't going her way, she'd lash out and insult your work in such a way that wasn't helpful or motivating. My new supervisor is skilled at the "criticism sandwich," in which the problem is layered between positive comments (i.e. "this part is really well done, but you may want to work on that part. Good job overall, though.") It's been a very refreshing change.
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Old 08-09-2014, 10:20 AM
 
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Give advice with a big smile. And look helpful
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Old 08-09-2014, 10:27 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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It should meant to be delivered positively and to help the person do better. Not as to put someone down, humiliate them, or just hurt them.
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Old 08-09-2014, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA, now.
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I don't care enough about people to criticize them.
And what they do is their business...if they want to plant something that needs sun
in the shade...I only mention that that plant likes sun...after that, I don't care
what they do.
If they criticize me...and one very immature friend often does, in these left-handed ways,
I just don't hang out with her much anyone...her inner lack of peace is tiring.

But, I agree, smile and seem helpful...and don't make a habit of it...they catch on!!

If they are doing something that REALLY bothers you ... never start the sentence with a, 'You always..or You never...'
Start with the classic..."I feel this when you do that...''
It's the "it's me, not you" approach.

Then, there is the great manipulative way of saying,
"Hey, could you do me a favor?
Would you mind putting that tool over there when you're done...thanks, Bob." Big
smile....then, "What are ya doin' after work?"

Gotta learn the art of finesse and diplomacy....winning friends and influencing people.
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