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My Dad's Brother's son is getting married this fall. He's 4ish years older than me. Anyways, turns out I was invited to go to the wedding and my parents want me to go.
I live in Chicago, the wedding is on a Friday night in Atlanta... which means taking a vacation day and flying down.
Now I'm 24 and I haven't even seen this cousin since I was maybe 10. And I haven't talked to him since then as well.
Am I crazy to not want to burn a vacation day and pay for a flight to go down to the wedding?
You are not crazy for not wanting to use your vacation day and pay for a flight to Atlanta for the wedding of a cousin you aren't even close to. You haven't spoken to this cousin for fourteen years and haven't seen your uncle for six years. I understand wanting to please your parents, but if you don't feel like going you shouldn't go. It'd be different if you had a deep desire to see your relatives and wanted to use this as an opportunity to reconnect with them, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I think you'll just have to tell your folks you won't be going and live with the fall out. If that sounds too painful you could always say you have to work. It's hard to argue with that one in this economy.
Hell no, I wouldn't go either. It isn't like this is an immediate family member (Brother, Sister, etc) it is a Cousin you have no real ties or contact with. Plus, you are in Chicago and they are in Atlanta, that isn't like driving across town.
You are an adult now and have the right to say no to your Parents. Simply tell them it would be impossible for you to get away for the wedding but that you will send a gift with them. No one will even know you are missing I bet.
Time to be strong, it is your life and you have to do what is best for you.
My Dad's Brother's son is getting married this fall. He's 4ish years older than me. Anyways, turns out I was invited to go to the wedding and my parents want me to go.
I live in Chicago, the wedding is on a Friday night in Atlanta... which means taking a vacation day and flying down.
Now I'm 24 and I haven't even seen this cousin since I was maybe 10. And I haven't talked to him since then as well.
Am I crazy to not want to burn a vacation day and pay for a flight to go down to the wedding?
No. I was just forced to go to a cousin wedding and regretted it. 100 for the travel, 250 for the hotel, 100 for the dress and 200 for a gift. That's 750 dollars and two days spent on one boring night of mediocre food and bad music. I'd plead work responsibilities and say no thanks.
My Dad's Brother's son is getting married this fall. He's 4ish years older than me. Anyways, turns out I was invited to go to the wedding and my parents want me to go.
I live in Chicago, the wedding is on a Friday night in Atlanta... which means taking a vacation day and flying down.
Now I'm 24 and I haven't even seen this cousin since I was maybe 10. And I haven't talked to him since then as well.
Am I crazy to not want to burn a vacation day and pay for a flight to go down to the wedding?
I would say if you want to spend a weekend in Atlanta with your parents then go otherwise don't go.
You could use the wedding as the excuse to go, get all of that done and spend the rest of the time enjoying Atlanta and spending time with your parents.
Is there other family you want to see? You may find it enjoyable when everyone is together. If you truly don't have enough PTO or cash, don't go. Go only of you want to, not to please your parents.
Why not? You wouldn't be going for the wedding only. Weddings are a great time to see relatives you haven't seen in years. The most important things in life are relationships (family and friends).
Why not? You wouldn't be going for the wedding only. Weddings are a great time to see relatives you haven't seen in years. The most important things in life are relationships (family and friends).
Go, reconnect with family, have fun.
if his cousin hasn't bothered to go out of his way to see or talk to him why should he use his vacation time to go? the groom will be too busy with his bride to be too social.
besides many people send out wedding invitations thinking the person isn't going to show anyway. it's more of an announcement than an invitation.
That's pretty much the reason. My dad called me and was said something like "We got an invitation to Ian's wedding on XYZ date, and your invitation was mailed with ours since they didn't know your address"
Me "Oh... uhh, I'm going?"
Dad "We assumed you were"
Me "Uhhh, let's talk about this later"
I've never been really close with most of my extended family. Haven't seen my uncle in probably 6 years and usually only talk at the holidays on the phone.
I mean, it's not a money issue, but it's more of if he sat next to me on a plane, I'm not even sure if I'd recognize him nor realize i'd be related to him kind of thing... so why go?
Family invite. I live about 30 minutes from my parents.
That invite sent to your parents is called an invitation to send a gift.
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I would say if you want to spend a weekend in Atlanta with your parents then go otherwise don't go.
You could use the wedding as the excuse to go, get all of that done and spend the rest of the time enjoying Atlanta and spending time with your parents.
If this is not appealing to you then don't go.
That's what I was going to say-I'm wondering if it's your parents' way of trying to spend time with you.
sounds like your dad got stuck going, and wants you to go
initially, id say no, but.....
there will be family that are there,,,that will be gone before you know it...id go, and take a lot of pics
its better a wedding today than a few funerals tomorrow- and,,,,you can always say you went to the wedding
as others have wisely said,,,go if you can,,,,and have a good time spending time with your family.
looking back, I wish I had pics of me going to a family wedding when I was 24, so many family members were alive back then
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