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I believe in the old adage that how a man treats his mother is an indication of how he will treat other women in his life.
He might have valid reasons to be disappointed in his mother's decision to remarry, and he might have valid reasons to not want a relationship with her nor want his [future] children to have a relationship with her.
But there's no possible valid reason for him to call her names. That's a deal-breaker.
I believe in the old adage that how a man treats his mother is an indication of how he will treat other women in his life.
Yep. This can't be emphasized enough and it's too bad that not as many heed it as they should.
My own sister discounted that advice and is now forever linked to that man. Her husband has a lot of anger towards his mother and treats her poorly. His mother is a nice woman, I mean really really nice. My BIL treats his mother with such contempt and condescends her. And its very undeserving. What really hurts my sister the most is that their son treats her the same way and has told her he hates her a lot. My nephew is only 4.5 years old. Children are sponges.
OP, please delay the possible marriage and see if his anger can be helped. If not, you've been forewarned.
She said he died in 2004 on another thread. A decade ago. A decade. Ago.
I could see if someone's parent died and a few months later the spouse jumps into a quick marriage that a child (even an adult child) could be upset -----but ten years later! That is wrong.
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Originally Posted by Inkpoe
Yep. This can't be emphasized enough and it's too bad that not as many heed it as they should.
My own sister discounted that advice and is now forever linked to that man. Her husband has a lot ofanger towards his mother and treats her poorly. His mother is a nice woman, I mean really really nice. My BIL treats his mother with such contempt and condescends her. And its very undeserving. What really hurts my sister the most is that their son treats her the same way and has told her he hates her a lot. My nephew is only 4.5 years old. Children are sponges.
OP, please delay the possible marriage and see if his anger can be helped. If not, you've been forewarned.
As a teacher I have seen this happen a number of times (usually between parents but sometimes between the Dad & his mother), the Dad calls his wife or mother a "Stupid Lazy B*****" and the preschool or kindergarten son calls her the same thing.
Run away from a man who treats his mother badly. Run away.
What really hurts my sister the most is that their son treats her the same way and has told her he hates her a lot. My nephew is only 4.5 years old. Children are sponges.
Why on earth would your sister allow her 4.5 year old son to treat her that way? By allowing it, your sister is teaching her son that it's OK to disrespect her and that she, and perhaps any female in his life, is not worthy of respect.
No, not normal. Of course there would be a lot of empotions involved, but a menatally and emotionally healthy person would accept that time has pased, life goes on, and mom deserves to be happy.
My boyfriend's turned on his mom for remarrying. His dad was killed in Iraq. He now refers to his mother as a ***** and talk about how she's never going to see her grandchildren. Is this normal?
This guy is irrational. Unless, the mother was having an affair with the new H while the dad was serving in Iraq. In this instance I would be upset too.
If my father of mother married someone else i would be very upset, unless the cause of remarriage was because they are widows. I suspect the mother of this man was unfaithful to her H.
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This guy is irrational. Unless, the mother was having an affair with the new H while the dad was serving in Iraq. In this instance I would be upset too.
If my father of mother married someone else i would be very upset, unless the cause of remarriage was because they are no widows. I suspect the mother of this man was unfaithful to her H.
So, she finally married him a decade later. That's ten years later. Ten years. Sure, that makes sense. I also suspect she shoplifts carrots at Walmart because.....well, because.
It is much more normal for a teen to turn on their parents when they are unhappy about having a stepparent have authority over them.
Much less common for adults.
My dad remarried when I was 22 (parents divorced). I didn't like her, but I didn't turn on him. I would be VERY cautious with someone who seems unable to accept that his parent has a life outside of being his mother. That either shows a tremendous lack of empathy or a flawed thinking about the woman's role in a marriage/parenting. Or, he has a flawed idea of what marriage and love really are.
It is much more normal for a teen to turn on their parents when they are unhappy about having a stepparent have authority over them.
Much less common for adults.
My dad remarried when I was 22 (parents divorced). I didn't like her, but I didn't turn on him. I would be VERY cautious with someone who seems unable to accept that his parent has a life outside of being his mother. That either shows a tremendous lack of empathy or a flawed thinking about the woman's role in a marriage/parenting. Or, he has a flawed idea of what marriage and love really are.
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