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Snobbishness is often confused with refusing to follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing. People who feel this way are the ones putting on a mask and expect you to do the same.
An actual snob is someone who pretends their preferences make them better than everyone else. They can't just say "I don't like ice cream." They have to imply that not liking it somehow makes them better than you.
I was out with a group of women on Saturday night and someone told me a few of the other women thought I was snobby.
I don't understand why they would say this. I consider myself a pretty friendly person. Maybe they say that because of the way I dressed or my lifestyle..
I always thought a snob was someone that thought they were better then others..
I think you should ask your friend why the others thought that. Trust me, they will have told her and she will have either joined in or defended you. She's in a much better position to tell you than anyone on here. Then, you can decide to either change your interactions or get a new group of friends who see things like you do.
I have been told this too. It's because I am an introvert, and I take my time warming up to people. I try to be smiley, and friendly, yet, because I am not over the top gregarious some have assumed I think I am better then them. I am who I am, I know I'm not stuck up, so I no longer worry about it. Let it go, they don't sound like real super cats themselves.
I can understand what you mean. When I was young I was VERY shy. I would always say hello and
smile but being so shy I didn't talk much. So, some people thought I was a snob or a beotch.
As for someone being a snob, the definitions below sums it up. And, I'll include continually
mentioning hoity toity name brands.
I have been told this too. It's because I am an introvert, and I take my time warming up to people. I try to be smiley, and friendly, yet, because I am not over the top gregarious some have assumed I think I am better then them. I am who I am, I know I'm not stuck up, so I no longer worry about it. Let it go, they don't sound like real super cats themselves.
In my younger years I was considered "snobbish" by my in-laws or so I was told. I was young, introverted and bookish. I can't/couldn't tell jokes but appreciate a good joke teller and I have a great sense of humor but not for trashy humor. Sexual innuendo and aggressive behavior frightened me.
50 years later, I am more jaded and tougher and minus those in-laws. But it was tough back then becoming someone else. What is sort of ironic/funny is that my now deceased but current in-laws considered me somewhat beneath my current husband of over 20 years.......
Snobbishness is often confused with refusing to follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing. People who feel this way are the ones putting on a mask and expect you to do the same.
An actual snob is someone who pretends their preferences make them better than everyone else. They can't just say "I don't like ice cream." They have to imply that not liking it somehow makes them better than you.
This is excellent, and I agree.
I think 'snob' is often a go-to term some people use when they themselves are uncomfortable with a person in their midst who is just different or god forbid, well-rounded.
These people have an inflated sense of just how interesting and important their own lives/preferences are and can't imagine that something different can be just as important or exciting or worthwhile.
For example, the housewife coffee klatch, the football fan couch potatoes, these are just two examples of social groups that frankly aren't all that special or important (but there's nothing 'wrong' with them) but at times are not friendly to people that don't fit the mold. And these people get branded as 'snobs,' when they're likely just not into doing the same things over and over again.
Snobbishness is often confused with refusing to follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing. People who feel this way are the ones putting on a mask and expect you to do the same.
An actual snob is someone who pretends their preferences make them better than everyone else. They can't just say "I don't like ice cream." They have to imply that not liking it somehow makes them better than you.
Yes....or nothing less than eating the most expensive brand is satisfactory.
This is probably it. I'm quiet when I meet new people and have heard on more than one occasion that the other people thought I was snobbish or stuck up because I "wouldn't" talk to them. I was astonished that this would make them think I was a snob instead of just quiet or shy.
Your words make you a snob. Dress and lifestyle have nothing to do with it.
That should be true, but unfortunately some folks DO judge based on outer appearance, where you live, material possessions, etc. When I first bought my "new" car, for example, one of my colleagues saw it and declared "ooh, faaaaancy." It's a BMW, but also happens to be 12 years old w/ 110K miles, and purchased off my sister for only $8K. And I didn't buy it to impress anyone, I bought it because my Honda died and I couldn't afford anything newer (plus she just happened to be getting ready to sell the Beemer).
So even if you don't present yourself as being superior, sometimes the snobby label is thrown at you simply for existing in a certain manner. I also get this when people ask where my father lives, as the town is known for its expensive properties... but like another poster said earlier in the thread, hey, YOU ASKED!! I never say "my father is special because he lives in xxxx," but if you ask I will answer honestly. Actually, I've started giving a more generic response (like "the Peninsula") simply to avoid these judgments. Sad.
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