Strange reaction to asking for favor (siblings, person, sister, retired)
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Reminds me of a favor a friend of mine asked of me... the second time. First time, she asked me to pick up her and her husband from an airport 15 mins. from me, take them, home, and they'd buy me lunch. Cool! Of course, she had the good sense to ask me a few days before. Did it, had a nice day with them.
The second time, they called me FROM the airport to pick them up, they'd buy me dinner for taking them home. Um, NO... you don't call me when you get to the airport and ASSUME I'll do it again without advance notice on a weeknight, ESPECIALLY when you live 25 miles away.
Not the same situation as the OP, but it sounds like a lot of hassle. First, you shouldn't have accepted her answer as a yes UNTIL you told her the details. I'm sure she said yes thinking you wouldn't be so inconsiderate as to exactly what you were asking of her. Then you have the nerve to be upset.
Is there a reason you couldn't have just ordered it online? I assume she would have either had to mail the order to you (incurring more cost to herself) or you would have had to pick it up -- in which case, why not just go to that store yourself?
I personally do not agree to do a favor until I know the details, and I don't accept someone else's "yes" as concrete until I give them the details and they agree at that point.
Also, if the $50 "matching" gift certificate is to a store she doesn't go to, that's not an incentive.
where is the OP ? I always suspect things when it is a provocative post and the OP seems to go IMA. But, I have done the same thing because of my access to the computer.
She and her sister live in different states, so, no.
yes true, though some states are very close together, lol.
I was thinking, if it is too much trouble for the OP, why would she think it was less trouble for the sister?
on another thought, its best not to get indebted with each other with "favors"... if one party feels they are doing favors more than receiving favors from the other person, resentment can happen. big time.
I'm wondering what the order was. If it's something frivolous then I'd want to slap you upside the head. If it's something medical in nature that you really needed I'd be willing to go the distance. There's a difference between taking advantage of someone and really needing help.
I asked my sister for a favor and she said she'd love to help me but when I gave her the instructions (picking up an order that's only available in her state but within 25 miles of her) she got upset at the driving distance and overwhelmed with the order details, but even after I found it at a closer store and said she could just purchase it ($50 and she gets a matching gift certificate), she said no I'm too stressed and can't do it at all and was upset. I wasn't mean or angry I just gave the details then offered the easier way.
I don't understand this kind of behavior. If someone says "Yah I want to help you", then gets overwhelmed by the details then says they won't help you at all no matter what, I feel like I stepped over an invisible line I didn't know was there and onto a landmine, and if I'd guessed right the first time everything would have worked out fine. Now I feel like an ass for offering a simpler version because she got pissed off initially.
Has anyone else experienced this? Am I being rational or an ass? I feel let down and like I really screwed up because I guessed wrong.
OP, your question can't be answered here, because we don't know your sister. You know her. You grew up with her. You know her quirks and feelings. To us she's a random stranger. To you, she's a big part of your life, and you know her all too well. How can she possibly suddenly seem strange to you, when you know her that well? If she suddenly seems very different than the sister you always knew, you can't expect her to suddenly be so average that we would know her better than you do. Your task, if she suddenly seems very different than the sister you always knew, is to find out what happened. And none of us have the slightest clue of that.
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