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I have this issue with a family member and it has always driven me crazy but I don't have the patience I used to. This person is the sweetest-do anything for you person, but it's just the fact that this person is hyper, impatient and always never allowing you to complete a thought without interruption.
We tell the person that it is rude and ask her to let us finish talking, but she can't help herself. It's just not going to change. She doesn't have the patience to let anyone finish a sentence. She interrupts and tries to guess what you're trying to say.
When I know I'm going to be around her, I give myself a pep talk i.e, you can do this, this is only for an hour, 15 minutes or whatever, breathe, take a deep breath, be patient, etc. But after about 10 minutes I have found that I lose it. I again leave her feeling awful and disappointed in myself for getting upset about it. I really want to have the patience to overlook it and accept that she will never change and she won't. She is older and is very giving of the heart but this part really grates my nerves. She doesn't mean any harm but it's just always been her way.
I feel like she's so busy trying to guess what you're trying to say that she isn't listening.
How do you deal and not lose patience? One would think it would be easy to deal with when you don't live with the person and only see them an average of a couple times a week for a small amount of time.
Anyone else have this issue or a similar issue with a family member?
One of my coworkers does this. It's an ingrained habit that she's probably been doing her whole 50+ years without even realizing when she does it. It's not a habit that is likely to change. I can't control her, I can only control my response.
While not exactly the same, what if she had a stutter or turrets? I wouldn't expect her to go on medication just because I'm impatient or easily annoyed.
You mean this offends people ?
I though it was a sign of understanding the speaker's train of thought.
So your saying that , when your stumbling at a word to describe a thought, I should let you stumble and fumble over it till if you ever come up with the word .
Got it thanks.
While not exactly the same, what if she had a stutter or turrets? I wouldn't expect her to go on medication just because I'm impatient or easily annoyed.
I'm asking how others deal? I know I can't change this behavior as I stated in my first post when I said "It's just not going to change.", so I'm asking for suggestions on how I can deal with it. I like the suggestion to just stop talking.
I'm not stumbling for a word, I'm just talking and get constantly interrupted by this person. I don't want to lose patience so asking for how others deal with this so as not to lose it because yes, it does annoy me.
I'm asking how others deal? I know I can't change this behavior as I stated in my first post when I said "It's just not going to change.", so I'm asking for suggestions on how I can deal with it. I like the suggestion to just stop talking.
I'm not stumbling for a word, I'm just talking and get constantly interrupted by this person. I don't want to lose patience so asking for how others deal with this so as not to lose it because yes, it does annoy me.
I don't know how to tell you to practice patience. It's just something you have to work at. I don't agree with the suggestion to just stop talking. That's pretty passive aggressive.
I'm asking how others deal? I know I can't change this behavior as I stated in my first post when I said "It's just not going to change.", so I'm asking for suggestions on how I can deal with it. I like the suggestion to just stop talking.
I'm not stumbling for a word, I'm just talking and get constantly interrupted by this person. I don't want to lose patience so asking for how others deal with this so as not to lose it because yes, it does annoy me.
Either stop talking and stare at her as suggested above.
Turn around and walk away when she starts interrupting.
Start interrupting her and finish her sentences.
Don't spend any time with her.
I have this issue with a family member and it has always driven me crazy but I don't have the patience I used to. This person is the sweetest-do anything for you person, but it's just the fact that this person is hyper, impatient and always never allowing you to complete a thought without interruption.
We tell the person that it is rude and ask her to let us finish talking, but she can't help herself. It's just not going to change. She doesn't have the patience to let anyone finish a sentence. She interrupts and tries to guess what you're trying to say.
When I know I'm going to be around her, I give myself a pep talk i.e, you can do this, this is only for an hour, 15 minutes or whatever, breathe, take a deep breath, be patient, etc. But after about 10 minutes I have found that I lose it. I again leave her feeling awful and disappointed in myself for getting upset about it. I really want to have the patience to overlook it and accept that she will never change and she won't. She is older and is very giving of the heart but this part really grates my nerves. She doesn't mean any harm but it's just always been her way.
I feel like she's so busy trying to guess what you're trying to say that she isn't listening.
How do you deal and not lose patience? One would think it would be easy to deal with when you don't live with the person and only see them an average of a couple times a week for a small amount of time.
Anyone else have this issue or a similar issue with a family member?
First option
It's really difficult here to deal with such people, either you get used to it, explain to them patiently that she should give you full opportunity to complete your sentences and not guess like that, explain to her that you would really appreciate is she does this and see for a few days if there is a change, be very polite with her when you say this.
Second option
If that doesn't work then stop talking to her, it may seem harsh but that's the best way to handle such people, if not forever at least for sometime so that they understand where they are going wrong, be strong and do this for a few days at least and see the result.
Although second option will show a little immaturity on your part but it can work when done correctly, so think and choose as to what applies best to you.
Yes I do have such issues in my life, however I always take the second option, even though I am not immature as a person but maturity doesn't work always in all cases, given the kind of person I am second option always works for me. I prefer not to have contact with such people. It's okay if people call me immature but it works for me everytime.
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