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Old 07-25-2014, 07:34 AM
 
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the reason he wasn't directly informed about my injury was that it occurred shortly following his latest poison email and I had responded that we needed to take a break from being in contact....because the emails were just getting ridiculous. So, in all fairness, I was the one who called a time out. We had been having a really horrid email exchange for many days following Christmas. I was on the brink of closing the door on him forever at that point.

My son accused me of being more focused on my career than on him. Also not being enough involved in his child's life. But never being a narcissist, or interfering. I used to try and schedule lots of time with my gkid. But after every outing I'd get a phone call from him over something my GD said that disturbed her mom. So now I don't schedule time with her but if they ask I do take her gladly. Its pretty much limited to me paying for her to go to summer camp and me staying with her a week each year while they go on vacation. This will be the 4th year we do that and she & I have a blast together.


so, there's a whole lot of rehashing....
my suggestion. stop emailing, stop facebook posting. go get a couple of teddy bears and have a tea party with your grandchildren. with pretend tea.

all this drama is unnecessary and unproductive. just live life enjoying and being good to those little ones and the rest will follow.

am sure you will come to a similar conclusion as you work with your therapist.
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Old 07-25-2014, 07:42 AM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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my suggestion. stop emailing, stop facebook posting. go get a couple of teddy bears and have a tea party with your grandchildren. with pretend tea.

all this drama is unnecessary and unproductive. just live life enjoying and being good to those little ones and the rest will follow.

am sure you will come to a similar conclusion as you work with your therapist.
Yes, you are right. I dropped my DIL as a FB friend back at that time and emails w/son are strictly limited to basic info exchanges. I have a wonderful relationship w/my gkid. My son says she regularly announces that her fav person outside her parents is ME!

I have been a DIL 3x due to life's turns. I have absolutely loved every MIL and each has been a great role model of what not and what to do. But I have never figured out how to build a relationship with my own DIL.
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Old 07-25-2014, 01:30 PM
 
Location: oHIo
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I am with your brother on your ungrateful and self-centered son. Let him get a bank loan to make up the difference in his portion, so he can get the rental property. Lenders do those loans, you know.

The money should not come from you - he won't appreciate it anyway.

Kudos to your brother in taking a stand for you.
Ditto. I'm sorry, but your son sounds like a first class jerk.

My Mother was a single Mom, too. She worked as many double shifts in a grocery store so she could to keep my sis and I in day camp, vacations and various day trips. When I became an adult I realized how difficult it was for her to juggle all the plates she did to give us what she could, considering how little money she earned from her job.

I wish I'd done a better job of showing her how much I appreciated what she did for us when I was a teenager, but I tried to make up for that as an adult.

I'm sending you a hug, OP. You deserve better from your son.
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