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Old 07-30-2014, 03:57 PM
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I think that's because when we get older we KNOW what is and isn't really important. Something like this is NOT that important in the long term.

I forgot to mention in my other post that I have been called hon, sweetie, babe, darlin', etc. by my customers. Does it bother me? Nope, not a bit. I always figure they call me those things because they actually LIKE me and not because they are disrespecting me, or whatever. I have never felt talked down to nor would I want my customers to feel that way if I call them hon. I admit I don't do it often but once in a while it'll slip out and I don't call anyone anything else. Words like sweetie, babe, darlin' are reserved for friends and family and even then I don't use them often.

After reading this entire thread though I don't think I'll EVER call ANYONE anything ever again!
True, not much of it is that important! And for me, as you get older it's more a term of endearment versus a sexist one! When I was younger I didn't like any names other than my own! Where I work, an old guy called me "baby" the other day. I laughed out loud. At his age, I am a baby! Fine with me.
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Old 07-30-2014, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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True, not much of it is that important! And for me, as you get older it's more a term of endearment versus a sexist one! When I was younger I didn't like any names other than my own! Where I work, an old guy called me "baby" the other day. I laughed out loud. At his age, I am a baby! Fine with me.
LOL...I would've laughed too. I've had men of all ages call me these 'sweet' names. It makes me smile. I've had women call me those names too and that doesn't bother me either. Well, when it comes down to it not that much bothers me anyway. Unless they criticize how I do my job! Now THAT bothers me! Lucky for me that's rare too.
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Old 07-30-2014, 05:51 PM
 
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I think that's because when we get older we KNOW what is and isn't really important. Something like this is NOT that important in the long term.

I forgot to mention in my other post that I have been called hon, sweetie, babe, darlin', etc. by my customers. Does it bother me? Nope, not a bit. I always figure they call me those things because they actually LIKE me and not because they are disrespecting me, or whatever. I have never felt talked down to nor would I want my customers to feel that way if I call them hon. I admit I don't do it often but once in a while it'll slip out and I don't call anyone anything else. Words like sweetie, babe, darlin' are reserved for friends and family and even then I don't use them often.

After reading this entire thread though I don't think I'll EVER call ANYONE anything ever again!
Oh, please don't be discouraged by these stick-in-the-muds, hon.
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Old 07-30-2014, 06:03 PM
 
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I don't like to be referred to as "You guys" when I am with my DH. I am not a guy. Actually my DH does that also. I think it's demeaning to the woman of the pair.
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Old 07-30-2014, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Oh, please don't be discouraged by these stick-in-the-muds, hon.
LOL...I won't...really.
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Old 07-30-2014, 07:10 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I don't like to be referred to as "You guys" when I am with my DH. I am not a guy. Actually my DH does that also. I think it's demeaning to the woman of the pair.
Okay...another one I'm 'guilty' of but damn, I have NEVER meant anything I say to be DEMEANING to anyone. Thank God I only say this rarely too. Sigh.....

Could someone please e-mail me a script of what I can and cannot say to my customers? I mean, I really really hate to insult and demean people all the time. Good grief!
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Old 07-30-2014, 07:56 PM
 
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I don't like to be referred to as "You guys" when I am with my DH. I am not a guy. Actually my DH does that also. I think it's demeaning to the woman of the pair.
When you learn a language that has a gender-neutral second person pronoun, you can use it. Until then, you (and I) are stuck with English, which lacks one, so people use:

you
youse
you-all
you-uns
you guys

Take your pick. "You guy and girl" is not widely accepted ;-)
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Old 07-30-2014, 10:19 PM
 
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you people
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Old 07-30-2014, 10:46 PM
 
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Does not bother me in the least to be called 'hon'. There are far worse things on any day to get concerned about.
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Old 07-30-2014, 10:59 PM
 
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I don't like it either. My solution would be to tell them my first name and that I know they are being friendly but I don't like being called that. I am a number of years older and during a hospital stay, was called sweetie, dear, and honey. Although one aide seemed offended, I was not called those things for the remainder of my stay.
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