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Old 02-27-2017, 06:48 PM
Status: "could've~would've~should've used 'have', not 'of'" (set 27 days ago)
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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I'm not sure what you mean by cultural? I live in the United States. I cannot fathom any professional situation in which it would be appropriate to call one of my clients "honey" or "sweetie".
Cultural as in very generally north/south divide.
Maybe culturally business wise also because very formal offices in both places do not use the more casual forms of address, but in less formal situations it's perfectly acceptable in the south.
I probably would be surprised if I'm meeting the college dean, the bank president, or my high priced lawyer for the first time and I'm addressed as sweetie. OTOH if I go to the doctors office, my insurance agent, the parent teacher conference and any and all retail or causal dining establishments I pretty much expect that someone there will address me as such, regardless of our respective ages, genders, or social class.
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Old 02-27-2017, 08:19 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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For those of you who consider hon & sweetie, an actual honorific or title, I'm curious...would you ever address a business letter as Dear Hon or Dear Sweetie? vs Dear Sir or Ma'am?
There's a time and a place for everything, societal differences and other worse things to fret about than familiar terms of address, don't you think?

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For those of you who consider hon & sweetie, an actual honorific or title, I'm curious...would you ever address a business letter as Dear Hon or Dear Sweetie? vs Dear Sir or Ma'am?
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You can pretend language is not important, if you wish, no sweat off my back. However, language is meant to convey & communicate, so each word, does just that. When you use a diminutive to address an adult or a term of endearment to a stranger, you are absolutely disrespecting that person. The only real question is whether it's intentional or not.
Come on, admit it. It really DOES bother you and IS sweat off your back, doesn't/isn't it, Darlin'?

"Disrespecting" is horribly over-used!

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Old 02-28-2017, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Location: Happy Place
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I am totally amused at people considering this sort of thing a micro-aggression.

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Old 02-28-2017, 07:02 AM
 
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When I moved down south, it was really a shock for me how many people used words like hon, sweety, darling, and even "love" when addressing me. Total strangers. But I just got used to it. I looked young too...but when I looked older, people keep it up. I think its really funny when people obviously younger say it though.

The thing that bothers me, and I don't know if its regional or what, but when I am talking with professionals about my children (who have special needs and learning issues) and they keep referring to them as "kid-os". Even the tone bothers me because it seems so condescending. I don't know. I am sure I will get used to it. But its like as if adding an "o" at the end some how lightens the blow when talking about your dyslexic daughters slow reading growth. It doesn't. It just seems dumb. I dunno...
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Old 02-28-2017, 10:28 AM
 
Location: EPWV
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For those of you who consider hon & sweetie, an actual honorific or title, I'm curious...would you ever address a business letter as Dear Hon or Dear Sweetie? vs Dear Sir or Ma'am?
When you're addressing a business letter to someone, don't you already know their name? I would think you would then address it as Dear Mary Smith, for example or Dear Ms Mary Smith or even Dear Ms Smith.
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Old 02-28-2017, 10:32 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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It doesn't bother me but what bothered me recently was a young male cashier calling me "momma." WTF?
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Old 02-28-2017, 10:35 AM
 
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Do guys call each other "hon" and "sweetie"? If not, why not, if it's clearly so inoffensive?
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Old 02-28-2017, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The thing that bothers me, and I don't know if its regional or what, but when I am talking with professionals about my children (who have special needs and learning issues) and they keep referring to them as "kid-os". Even the tone bothers me because it seems so condescending. I don't know. I am sure I will get used to it. But its like as if adding an "o" at the end some how lightens the blow when talking about your dyslexic daughters slow reading growth. It doesn't. It just seems dumb. I dunno...
I can't stand "kiddos." It's total mom-speak, and it grates on my nerves too - even as a mom! I'm not offended by it though.

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It doesn't bother me but what bothered me recently was a young male cashier calling me "momma." WTF?
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Old 02-28-2017, 10:52 AM
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Do guys call each other "hon" and "sweetie"? If not, why not, if it's clearly so inoffensive?
Inoffensive and not relevant are not the same thing. You can call a plumber "Dr. Smith" if you want. Its not offensive, but its not connected to who they are either.


Cultural norms dictate appropriate titles. Mr. vs Ms. for example. Neither is offensive, but who calls a woman Mr.?


Most people nowadays should just be called "Perpetually and hysterically offended & offendable"


How about that.
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Old 02-28-2017, 11:40 AM
 
Location: equator
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I wasn't thrilled about being addressed as "ma'am" when I moved to TX from the West coast, but hey. Just cultural differences. My curse is being too sensitive, but those terms "hon", and so forth, don't bother me at all. Kind of sweet, actually.


Now, in a foreign country, I don't know what people are calling me, so I rest easy!
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