How should I STAND UP to my dad without hurting him

[L0ve]

Your father is abusive by saying things like you will become a psychopath if you do not obey him. 100% inappropriate to say to a child. This is the type of verbal abuse and psychological manipulation that can really screw a child up.

You cannot change him. You need to learn how to calmly distance yourself from him emotionally and walk away/diffuse any drama for the sake of peace. There is a fine art to doing this peacefully and without him realizing it and reacting to it.

If you allow this dysfunction to continue, it will surely ruin any potential relationship with a woman you may have in the future. An adult relationship is 50/50 and no woman in her right mind will put up with playing 2nd place to your dysfunctional father trying to call the shots.

My guess is, that if you do not learn how to diffuse this situation soon, his next step will be to threaten and control you by writing you out of his will. I can see the writing on the wall...

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by 78's

Hm that's interesting but he's in the process of getting an engineering degree. Maybe a internship, bonus if it pays. But if you can get a part time job and afford even a funky little place you'll find peace. Just tell him it's time for me to grow up and be a man even if you are helping with school, I don't want to be a burden.

i know people like my nephew who say they are in the process of getting an engineering deg. ree unfortunately like alot of other young people his estimated timeframe is 20 years. .
military will pay for your college if college is the solution.