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Old 08-07-2014, 02:20 PM
 
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Adi, forgive me if some of my post does not apply to your situation. I'm afraid I just read your original post then posted my reply without reading further. My apologies. Nevertheless, notwithstanding your financial obligations, this man has no right to hinder you living and discovering your life for yourself. I'm sorry for all you are going through.
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Old 08-07-2014, 02:35 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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As long as he supports you in any way, you will not be a man in his eyes. It is unreasonable for you to demand respect when you haven't earned it.
It takes time to earn respect, and I am trying my level best to get there. It's not like I am Just sitting still waiting for opportunity to come. I did well as an undergraduate student and am breaking out of my comfort zone for the sake of a prosperous future by attending grad school 1000 miles away. According to what you say, If all goes well, then in 3 years he will look up to me like a man. Will it happen though, that's my question. I will be SO RELIEVED if it does .
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Old 08-07-2014, 03:14 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Just watch, Adi, when you go off to school he will miss you terribly. He probably won't show it, and most likely he will make your mother more miserable.

Are you the youngest??
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Old 08-07-2014, 04:44 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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Then I will manage with what remains. My mom's job gives generous health benefits for family, so health insurance isn't a problem for us at all.

You can only stay on your parents' insurance until you're 26. So it will become an issue, about the same time you start having to pay them back.
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Old 08-07-2014, 05:06 PM
 
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According to what you say, If all goes well, then in 3 years he will look up to me like a man. Will it happen though, that's my question. I will be SO RELIEVED if it does .
You're thinking is off. Do the things you do for you, not to earn the respect of others. Live your life for you.

Man, your culture really does a number on people.

Be appreciative and gracious to your parents, and then be your own man. That will earn respect.
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Old 08-07-2014, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Northville, MI
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Just watch, Adi, when you go off to school he will miss you terribly. He probably won't show it, and most likely he will make your mother more miserable.

Are you the youngest??
No, I am the oldest (or older of the two).

My younger brother left home at the age of 17 to start college @ CMU in Pittsburgh and visits every couple months. He is your typical rebel teenager, just a whole lot nerdier. In fact, he is driving home right now . He had the smart's so my parents let him go and trusted him to live alone. Not the same in my case LOL .
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Old 08-07-2014, 06:57 PM
 
Location: San Diego
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Get him super drunk, have him give you all his financial information, use it to get the $, go live the high life.

Oh, and while he's drunk, get him to do something completely embarrasing and shameful (something that can get him fired) and take somepictures of it to use as blackmail - have him send you $ every month or threaten exposure.

You're welcome.

Love it!
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Old 08-07-2014, 10:31 PM
 
Location: CO
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No, I am the oldest (or older of the two).

My younger brother left home at the age of 17 to start college @ CMU in Pittsburgh and visits every couple months. He is your typical rebel teenager, just a whole lot nerdier. In fact, he is driving home right now . He had the smart's so my parents let him go and trusted him to live alone. Not the same in my case LOL .
Does he have to pay your dad back too?
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Old 08-07-2014, 11:28 PM
 
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No, I am the oldest (or older of the two).

My younger brother left home at the age of 17 to start college @ CMU in Pittsburgh and visits every couple months. He is your typical rebel teenager, just a whole lot nerdier. In fact, he is driving home right now . He had the smart's so my parents let him go and trusted him to live alone. Not the same in my case LOL .
See, I don't agree with this at all. This, to me, is the same as declaring one child a favorite and that just shouldn't happen. Most parents have a favorite, but most parents don't charge one child $202k and let the other one go for free.
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Old 08-08-2014, 04:22 AM
 
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Being stupid in the Adi family gets really expensive.
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